Did you have a best friend when you was in primary/elementary?

[Geordie]

I had friends while I was young. We had since lost contact with each other... I am a roaming cowboy, the other people I know are sweet neighbors who are too sweet for a cowboy like me.

 

[Csutelan]

I had a best friend growing up. He was about a year older than me but we got along pretty well. He lived across the street. We were pretty close until high school when his views on things started to move to the far right wing ideologically. We started hanging out less and less and then he moved away go to college and join the navy and that was that. We still see each other occasionally but really the only thing we can talk about is the past which gets very boring after a while.

 

[Aalo]

Ages 7-13 were those times when I was at same class with my best friend (we met first at preschool, I was 5) whom I'm still in touch with, and 13-16yo I also had people to go around with. Then I moved and had no close connections ever since. So to say, AS symptoms making my life more difficult have been getting worse as I've aged. Things were pretty simple as a kid.

 

[Ylva]

Yes, and never since.

 

[Fox]

I had "friends" in elementary school, kids who played with me for a little while but once they figured out how strange I really was they'd join in with all the kids who picked on me. I had probably one or two true friends in elementary school but they were both as strange as I was.

 

[anne.bc]

I had a best friend but she ended up being fair-weathered. I later found my best friend in college, but through my fiance, who had a friend that was dating her at the time. They broke up since, but Paige and I are still best friends. Now if only California and Florida weren't so far apart...

 

[Christian T]

In early primary school I had a shy best friend who I suppose partly bonded with because he was just as scared as I was of socialising and because - and this I find truly shameful- he was someone I could dominate, boss around bully whilst others were bullying me. I know I was really little at the time, but I still shiver when I think of the things I used to do to him.

I don't really see him much any more, not because of how I used to treat him, but because we don't really have many common interests, and that always makes a friendship hard to sustain, even if you like the other person.

When I moved schools because my first one was hopeless at accommodating the needs of any slightly nonconformist children, I had a new best, and only, friend who I knew from kindergarten - back when my peers were too young and innocent to judge me - and it took me a long time to make any other friends. When I did, though, it was amazing. My last year of primary school was incredible, and I had a new best friend who was very smart, fun, cool and popular, but also understanding and not at all susceptible to peer pressure.

Then he moved to Tasmania, - I know how you feel anne.bcl, if only Tasmania and Victoria weren't so far apart - but what's worse is that I lost contact with him.

However, I've since made many more similar friends at high school and finally met another aspie who I now think of as my best friend.

 

[epath13]

I had a weird situation going on. Kids at school wanted to be my friends, invited me some place, but I had hard time understanding their communication style plus I was bored most of the time... I was the kind of kid who wanted adventures, but had hard time following through with my ideas. well... sometimes I did follow through... it was complicated... some kids fought over my attention for some reason while I was just standing in the middle doing nothing eventually I decided the less I get involved the better, I did choose a friend though. she was 2 years younger, always agreed to do what I wanted to do, rarely had her own ideas, which was perfect I had a friend in kindergarten, who abandoned me for a popular girl at school, then we reunited in high school, had a huge fight, she wanted to start over but I had pretty much enough of the whole permanent friendship thing

 

[Intemporal_Reverie]

I've yet to become my own friend.

 

[_Josh_]

I had a best friend from whom I had met at school from around age 9 - 13. We then lost touch. From age 13 - 15 I had only friendly classmates who I would socialize with at school, and an older friend who I regret ever knowing since he was such a bad influence. This bad influence lasted until I was about 16 or 17 when I totally cut things off with him. In between those years, at 15, for 4 months I hung around a neighborhood group, kind of like a gang, but none of the silly affiliations and very little violence, but a group who would hang on the corner that other groups from other neighborhoods were always steering clear of.(Best way I can explain it without mentioning major details) An interesting and fun 4 months of my life! I never became really good friends with any of them though. They started getting into some criminal activity, steeling cars mostly, and I totally abandoned them. Also in the middle of all this, I hung with my sister's friends, dating some of them along the way, and became really great friends for a few months with one of my ex's cousins. We drifted away though. At 18 years of age, my old friend from elementary school days showed back up. We were best friends all over again, just as much as old times. This lasted until about age 25 when he totally flipped out in a bi-polar and/or schizophrenic incident (freaking me out in the process) and I cut off all contact with him. I've been totally friendless since except for one of my sister's friends who visits every now and then.