I am turning 34 this August and despite my best efforts to bring romance into my life, I have failed to even get a coffee date. I really wish I knew the reason or reasons why and if it’s possible for me to make up for lost time for almost 16 years now.
There IS definitely time. I met my wife at 34 or 35. Honestly a 30-somthing with no kids or baby mama in the picture can be attractive and rare.
Some posts suggest that you have to change to be attractive and that's flat out wrong. You just need to find someone who is accepting of you. I work a part-time minimum wage job and most of the people I work with live with parents or similar situations and some of them are married and still live there.
If you haven't tried online dating yet give it a go. If you are already on line and haven't gotten anywhere, then I suggest having someone look over your profile. Be honest, mention that you are shy or can be awkward around people initially, but don't go into any detail about diagnosis or anything, that's for a little later.
Also a large percentage of women still feel that they need to be asked or reached out to first (at least in my experience) so make sure you sure you reach out and ask.
Classes are great for meeting people if you have the confidence to ask. I've only asked out a couple people in person. It has always been easier for me to do it online, mostly because I know they are also looking to meet someone.
It takes work and facing rejection a lot. It can be hard to deal with, but I guarantee it's not too late or impossible.