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I just want to try to figure this out. You don't have to be a parent to answer.
He's done this for a long time but it's increasingly more frustrating to me. He'll ask me a question or say something and then repeat it two or three times without giving me a chance to say anything in the meantime. If I don't answer instantly, he will usually start again in increments of three in the exact same tone he started with like I didn't hear him or angrily if he's in a bad mood. A lot of times this was said with a whine or anger but he'll also say it a lot just in normal conversation. He'll do this consistently when I'm already talking or busy driving, etc.
I used to have the best patience and mostly still do, but it runs thin quickly with him when he does this. The repeating can quickly turn into badgering. He is not even listening to my answer so even if he stops because he was distracted, he will start all over again once he remembers. A lot of times he is yelling. He does have consequences for his behavior and as soon as they are carried out and sometimes before, he'll suddenly realize what he's doing and start crying, he almost always apologizes at some point after and asks if I'm happy. I don't answer the happy question most times because it is irrelevant to the issue at hand. (The happy thing started after his dad left almost four years ago and is usually only asked after he knows he pushed me too far.) By this point, because I'm an undiagnosed Aspie myself, (he is diagnosed with autism), I'm either shutting down so I don't get loud or getting loud and he cries. I rarely yell because I don't want to and he's sensitive enough just me getting loud and serious but it's becoming a major problem. I take deep, calming breaths, I pray, but I'm completely worn out mentally by days end most days and this behavior is a major cause of it.
I home school him and he is an only child so he's not starved for attention. He has plenty of time he does what he wants and has his time alone. I have asked him but he rarely tells me how he feels and the reasons behind things. He won't draw it out as he hates to draw and color unless he is in the mood to do so. I've even turned it around and asked him, even modeling the behavior, to ask him if he'd like it if I did that to him. He always gets stressed out quick and agrees it wouldn't be fun. It takes the majority of the day of it from him before I start to have issues. Does anyone have any advice that can help us both as to why he might be doing this and/or techniques or anything else we could try? I appreciate anything in advance and for reading my long post.
He's done this for a long time but it's increasingly more frustrating to me. He'll ask me a question or say something and then repeat it two or three times without giving me a chance to say anything in the meantime. If I don't answer instantly, he will usually start again in increments of three in the exact same tone he started with like I didn't hear him or angrily if he's in a bad mood. A lot of times this was said with a whine or anger but he'll also say it a lot just in normal conversation. He'll do this consistently when I'm already talking or busy driving, etc.
I used to have the best patience and mostly still do, but it runs thin quickly with him when he does this. The repeating can quickly turn into badgering. He is not even listening to my answer so even if he stops because he was distracted, he will start all over again once he remembers. A lot of times he is yelling. He does have consequences for his behavior and as soon as they are carried out and sometimes before, he'll suddenly realize what he's doing and start crying, he almost always apologizes at some point after and asks if I'm happy. I don't answer the happy question most times because it is irrelevant to the issue at hand. (The happy thing started after his dad left almost four years ago and is usually only asked after he knows he pushed me too far.) By this point, because I'm an undiagnosed Aspie myself, (he is diagnosed with autism), I'm either shutting down so I don't get loud or getting loud and he cries. I rarely yell because I don't want to and he's sensitive enough just me getting loud and serious but it's becoming a major problem. I take deep, calming breaths, I pray, but I'm completely worn out mentally by days end most days and this behavior is a major cause of it.
I home school him and he is an only child so he's not starved for attention. He has plenty of time he does what he wants and has his time alone. I have asked him but he rarely tells me how he feels and the reasons behind things. He won't draw it out as he hates to draw and color unless he is in the mood to do so. I've even turned it around and asked him, even modeling the behavior, to ask him if he'd like it if I did that to him. He always gets stressed out quick and agrees it wouldn't be fun. It takes the majority of the day of it from him before I start to have issues. Does anyone have any advice that can help us both as to why he might be doing this and/or techniques or anything else we could try? I appreciate anything in advance and for reading my long post.