One of the things with allistics is their idea of "making up" or "making things good again" or whatever you want to call it.
And I don't know if this is an autistic thing or just a me thing, but I have alway found that redundant. You told each other how you felt about things when you were yelling about it (the yelling was also redundant, would have been easier to hear without the loudness and deliberate record scratch). So why rehash it? Why does it take a reenactment with a more peaceful interpretation for NTs to feel like things are okay between you? Why not just move on?
While we're at it, I don't really get the point of apologies either. They don't change anything, they're just another allistic ritual.
How do you feel about these things? Do you have a preferred way to solve conflicts? Does it work?
And I don't know if this is an autistic thing or just a me thing, but I have alway found that redundant. You told each other how you felt about things when you were yelling about it (the yelling was also redundant, would have been easier to hear without the loudness and deliberate record scratch). So why rehash it? Why does it take a reenactment with a more peaceful interpretation for NTs to feel like things are okay between you? Why not just move on?
While we're at it, I don't really get the point of apologies either. They don't change anything, they're just another allistic ritual.
How do you feel about these things? Do you have a preferred way to solve conflicts? Does it work?