tomaustin95
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I have struggled with professional life. It all started so well for me - I was extremely bright and intelligent as a child, for instance I was hyperlexic as an infant so had a very strong reading ability and found an early interest in factual and technical information. Car repair manuals, science books, encyclopedias - you name it I was immersed in it. I never really hung out with other kids and was always at home in my room for hours, holed up reading, building things with Lego. This all caused a lot of social problems as a teenager because I was singled out as being weird, but I did well at school, and got a top class degree from a prestigious engineering university. So far so good - everyone used to put me on a pedestal as a child/teenager and said I would go places.
The real problems began to set in after I graduated from university. I did what you were "supposed to do" and go and get a job with a big company, except nothing prepared me for the intensity of the competition for graduate positions. Suddenly my degree seemingly meant absolutely nothing. The questions on the application forms all required me to go into great detail about social situations which I had never any experience of, then I failed psychometric tests - and generally flunked the first interviews. On the one occasion when I got through the first interview I was sent to one of those assessment centers where they put you through all these social and roleplaying exercises with other applicants and needless to say I crashed and burned completely. A year after graduating I was still unemployed, whilst I had to watch the indignity of many of my peers who had (in my mind at least) worked a lot less harder on their studies simply walk into jobs. All of this had a devastating effect on my self esteem and self worth. I spent much of my early 20s bitter and angry and hated myself.
Eventually I did somehow end up in the "corporate" world, but I never really fitted in. My poor social skills, and my ADHD tendencies (procrastination, hyperfocus on the wrong things, emotional outbursts) got me fired three times. In my mid 40s I now work in a university/academia which is now the perfect fit and I am doing well, but I am now a lot further behind in my career than I should be at this age. Sometimes I regret even going down this path in the first place, and I am still haunted by my "failures" at an earlier age.
Maybe I should have listened to what those people and psychometric tests were telling me back then. I just wasn't cut out to be a "corporate man" in an NT-dominated world, and recruitment strategies that were designed to screen out neurodiversity. Without this sounding like I am wallowing in self-pity - if only I had KNOWN I was Aspie/ADHD back in my late teens/early 20s.
The real problems began to set in after I graduated from university. I did what you were "supposed to do" and go and get a job with a big company, except nothing prepared me for the intensity of the competition for graduate positions. Suddenly my degree seemingly meant absolutely nothing. The questions on the application forms all required me to go into great detail about social situations which I had never any experience of, then I failed psychometric tests - and generally flunked the first interviews. On the one occasion when I got through the first interview I was sent to one of those assessment centers where they put you through all these social and roleplaying exercises with other applicants and needless to say I crashed and burned completely. A year after graduating I was still unemployed, whilst I had to watch the indignity of many of my peers who had (in my mind at least) worked a lot less harder on their studies simply walk into jobs. All of this had a devastating effect on my self esteem and self worth. I spent much of my early 20s bitter and angry and hated myself.
Eventually I did somehow end up in the "corporate" world, but I never really fitted in. My poor social skills, and my ADHD tendencies (procrastination, hyperfocus on the wrong things, emotional outbursts) got me fired three times. In my mid 40s I now work in a university/academia which is now the perfect fit and I am doing well, but I am now a lot further behind in my career than I should be at this age. Sometimes I regret even going down this path in the first place, and I am still haunted by my "failures" at an earlier age.
Maybe I should have listened to what those people and psychometric tests were telling me back then. I just wasn't cut out to be a "corporate man" in an NT-dominated world, and recruitment strategies that were designed to screen out neurodiversity. Without this sounding like I am wallowing in self-pity - if only I had KNOWN I was Aspie/ADHD back in my late teens/early 20s.