Hi Pats - Your heart is clearly in the right place on this. Your act of kindness should not be wasted. I hope the soup gets there/got there. Accepting the invitation to come in is one of those social courtesies that we find rough - what to say, nothing to say, bored, nervous. I always try to remain optimistic, so I believe you might feel good later on for having accepted the invitation. They wouldn't invite you in if they didn't want to spend time with you. I see it as an extended kindness that goes with the soup. Your visit would benefit them. If they are not already aware, you could tell them about your family event over the holidays - what you made, who has grown, etc. Set your phone alarm if necessary - a reminder to complete your errands. A little bit of extra effort would be very special for them. If your apprehension is really severe, then let it go in a way that suits you. You are demonstrating care, and they just want to reciprocate with a courteous short visit. That's my version of the win-win.