barbarian
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I just replied to this thread:
What do you struggle with the most?
And realized this could be a nice topic of discussion to see if it's only me or anyone else relates as well.
"Bridge Burning", from urban dictionary:
1) The act of unpleasantly and permanently ending relations with another person, or an organization.
2) To act harshly/disgracefully upon leaving a situation to ensure that you will not be welcomed back.
3) To cut off the way upon which you came from, making it impossible to return or retreat.
My major struggle is with social "bridge burning". You know all that talk about how you have to """network""" (I hate this stupid buzzword) to get things, e.g have a good relation to people you work with, worked with, and will work with?
That's a huge one for me. When I'm done with something, I realize there is no point in maintaining a relation with anyone related to that "something".
One of the things that terrify me is a future employer asking my former employers for reference. It's not that I ever treated anyone bad, but I was never warm or said "goodbye" when a job contract was over/when I quit, and in my country being over friendly is a BIG part of social interaction. It worries me the amount of people that hold grudges that could potentially damage me and I don't even know about.
What do you struggle with the most?
And realized this could be a nice topic of discussion to see if it's only me or anyone else relates as well.
"Bridge Burning", from urban dictionary:
1) The act of unpleasantly and permanently ending relations with another person, or an organization.
2) To act harshly/disgracefully upon leaving a situation to ensure that you will not be welcomed back.
3) To cut off the way upon which you came from, making it impossible to return or retreat.
My major struggle is with social "bridge burning". You know all that talk about how you have to """network""" (I hate this stupid buzzword) to get things, e.g have a good relation to people you work with, worked with, and will work with?
That's a huge one for me. When I'm done with something, I realize there is no point in maintaining a relation with anyone related to that "something".
One of the things that terrify me is a future employer asking my former employers for reference. It's not that I ever treated anyone bad, but I was never warm or said "goodbye" when a job contract was over/when I quit, and in my country being over friendly is a BIG part of social interaction. It worries me the amount of people that hold grudges that could potentially damage me and I don't even know about.