ItaHelena95
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I met this guy online a few months ago. We started chatting and then after a few months of constant chatting we finally met in person. He already had told me about his asperger, but that day I could see it clear, and I just don´t mind. I did like him as he is.
After a few days he told me that he wasn´t sure he was ready for a relationship. I felt kind of bad but... There was nothing to do. We kept talking (constantly for almost two weeks). And in the end we agreed to met again at his place (I assumed he would feel more comfortable there).
We met and it was awesome, we talked, we made jokes and in the end we slept together. He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I doubted. I thought it was too fast and I was still thinking that just two weeks before he considered not talking to me ever again. The date was perfect, I was in a cloud. We met again and he told me he loves me; at that time I realized I love him as well. We were talking for months and... Yeah, it was clear in my head, I was in love. I still am.
We dated for a month and we did have some arguments, he used to disapear for days without telling me and I was worried. I was worried he wanted to dump me, I was worried I said something wrong, I was worried he had some accident (he likes to go to the forests alone, at night).
We had two rules: If you need to disapear, at least text me goodnight so I know you are safe.
If any of us say something that upsets the other, say it and do not go to bed mad.
We had an argument because he said I was putting too much pressure, that I wasn´t giving him enough space and that I tried to make him feel bad for asking for more space (I promise, I never tried to do that). He ignored me for a day and a half and then texted me back.
He said I was putting too much pressure on him, that we were toxic and that I wasn´t giving him enough space. He told me that he used to love me but now there is too much in his life and that his brain switched off and now he doesn´t feel anything for anyone. He said I was pretending his asperger doesn´t exist (I promise, I never tried to do that). He said he just can´t stand a relationship and that starting with me was a big mistake. He said I´m a constant reminder of all the limitations he has and all the relationships he failed in. He apologized for dragging me there and then again said he doesn´t love me anymore.
Two hours later he delated me from everywhere.
I am heart broken. I never meant to hurt him, I do love him a lot and I just can´t… The fact that he probably just hates me now it´s too much for me.
I don´t think he will ever love me again, my friends say he will text me again, but I know he won´t and I just want to know if it´s a good idea to text him in a few weeks to apologize for making him feel that bad.
I love him very much, he is intelligent, and funny, and sweet and I… Just don´t know what to do.
Can someone give me some advice?
After a few days he told me that he wasn´t sure he was ready for a relationship. I felt kind of bad but... There was nothing to do. We kept talking (constantly for almost two weeks). And in the end we agreed to met again at his place (I assumed he would feel more comfortable there).
We met and it was awesome, we talked, we made jokes and in the end we slept together. He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I doubted. I thought it was too fast and I was still thinking that just two weeks before he considered not talking to me ever again. The date was perfect, I was in a cloud. We met again and he told me he loves me; at that time I realized I love him as well. We were talking for months and... Yeah, it was clear in my head, I was in love. I still am.
We dated for a month and we did have some arguments, he used to disapear for days without telling me and I was worried. I was worried he wanted to dump me, I was worried I said something wrong, I was worried he had some accident (he likes to go to the forests alone, at night).
We had two rules: If you need to disapear, at least text me goodnight so I know you are safe.
If any of us say something that upsets the other, say it and do not go to bed mad.
We had an argument because he said I was putting too much pressure, that I wasn´t giving him enough space and that I tried to make him feel bad for asking for more space (I promise, I never tried to do that). He ignored me for a day and a half and then texted me back.
He said I was putting too much pressure on him, that we were toxic and that I wasn´t giving him enough space. He told me that he used to love me but now there is too much in his life and that his brain switched off and now he doesn´t feel anything for anyone. He said I was pretending his asperger doesn´t exist (I promise, I never tried to do that). He said he just can´t stand a relationship and that starting with me was a big mistake. He said I´m a constant reminder of all the limitations he has and all the relationships he failed in. He apologized for dragging me there and then again said he doesn´t love me anymore.
Two hours later he delated me from everywhere.
I am heart broken. I never meant to hurt him, I do love him a lot and I just can´t… The fact that he probably just hates me now it´s too much for me.
I don´t think he will ever love me again, my friends say he will text me again, but I know he won´t and I just want to know if it´s a good idea to text him in a few weeks to apologize for making him feel that bad.
I love him very much, he is intelligent, and funny, and sweet and I… Just don´t know what to do.
Can someone give me some advice?
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