I want to adress something else here. I worked with people with severe mental illness in several agency settings. All people that exhibit ‘differences” experience prejudice, and often shunning from society. It’s nit just Austism, but also those with very visible disabilities. I also have worked with people with severe eating disorders who are 550 pounds! You should hear their stories of not being served, and the treatment they endure from society. Horrible.
Humans are like any other species in the animal kingdom. We have evolved to survive with some sameness. Those not the same often do not thrive, or are ostracized from the societal group.
I have raised chickens, rabbits, and cats in large numbers. When one animal is born with a disability, or gets an injury which causes it to loom different or behave different, I have been shocked to see the others turn in it, and bully, and sometimes kill it. We all love little baby bunnies, but I have seen 18 baby bunnies abuse and kill the one baby bunny with the gimpy leg. I have seen the chickens peck another chicken with a disability to death.
My spirituality lies within the natural world, and I celebrate my Native American roots. I do believe humans are at one with the rest of the animal kingdom, and we are not separate nor elevated from it. So, when I see the same behaviors in the human world regarding how people with differences and disability challenges struggle at the hands of “normal” group society, I have to understand there is NO difference. We will be treated differently, regardless of whether it’s illegal, morally wrong, or unfair. It just is how living creatures as an evolutionary body of organisms survive!
People with differences have to be incredibly strong to survive- to endure. I just do not the expectations that society is going to change and accept, or embrace those of us with differences all the time, or everywhere. To expect that- especially with Autism- whom 99% of the world has never had any experience with nor any education of, and cannot recognize as disability unless with most extreme low end cases...is to expect too much.
I am amazed that you expect others to recognize your autism. I am amazed that it has not occurred to you to just ACCEPT that society could assess you quickly in a Uber at face value: as unfriendly, aggressive, shouting, and aggressive. How in earth could they read your mind? How on earth do they have any tools to assess you beyond that? Why would anyone expect this?
When we do assessments in mental health agencies for schizophrenia, bi-polar, depressive and anxiety disorders, etc, it takes at least 2 hours in an interview. Maybe more. Autism testing takes hours also- By trained and long-educated clinicians. Yet, you expect someone driving an Uber to immediately assess your behavior as autism disability???? Not ever going to happen!
There are those on these threads with a legal diagnosis, who still have spouses and family who deny the autism diagnosis. People are uncomfortable with “different” behavior, but do not neccessarily want to accept, nor learn about human differences because it takes work. Humans are more apt to make snap judgements and assessments, because we have evolved to do so.