Anyone else hate when people are around

[Misery]

Easy way to fix this: pull out a butcher knife or something and just run in their general direction while screaming.

The crowd shall disperse posthaste.

EDIT: I love how this is being rated as a creative solution.

 

[AnnMoss]

I like being in the city because no one cares I am there. I am just scenery, and so are they. I am fine with brief interactions with people in assigned roles; a person who is behind a counter I interact with, for example. There is an explicit boundary that I am a customer and they are an employee and even if we exchange pleasantries, that's where it stops.

In smaller towns people NOTICE. I do not have a traditional appearance for small towns, and I do not like people looking. I just want to be me and be left alone. In cities, everyone is different, and we leave each other alone. We don't even notice one another. Human bodies = city trees.

 

[IntoTheVoid]

Well, it's certainly common.

Are you sure? I asked couple of people and they told me "No, I don't mind if I am in the forest and suddenly happy family shows up nearby and greets me." and "you're really angry and upset, you meet some people on your way?!"

Now I am asking here on autism forum and lots of people seem to agree with me.

So how common it really is? Oh or you meant "common" among aspergers, not common as a common in general, right?

 

[Kyou Nukui]

I think it's common among autistic people. We don't like strangers to observe our general behaviour or stims; or to interrupt our train of thought or our view of the surroundings.

Can't blame them just for being there, though.

 

[Progster]

In smaller towns people NOTICE. I do not have a traditional appearance for small towns, and I do not like people looking. I just want to be me and be left alone. In cities, everyone is different, and we leave each other alone. We don't even notice one another. Human bodies = city trees.

You have a good point there. In the city, you can go for a walk, pass people and nobody will pay you any attention. In the country or small town, people will try to talk to you, stare at you or expect you to greet them, and this for me is the biggest problem with walking in the county on public paths. Luckily, where we go walking it's off the beaten path and we don't find people where we go.

 

[SusanLR]

I like that expression @AnnMoss Human bodies = City Trees.
That's how I see it too. That is why I can walk the Mall or go to concerts and events.
In the city I see nobody and nobody sees me.
If I don't look them in the face, I know I'm surrounded by people, but, just rather oblivious to it.

In the small town, and I've lived in one, people always notice and make everybody's business their
business. Lots of gossip in a small town.

If I want to be alone in nature and 'real trees', I don't like being interrupted by people passing or
coming out my way. Maybe passing one or two isn't so bad, but, when I see a whole family with kids
yelling and talking, it's like there goes the neighborhood.
Goodbye birds, or whatever wild life is around me.

 

[Bolletje]

I very much dislike running into people when I’m out on a walk in nature. It really disturbs my inner peace. I also dislike having people in my home or my office.

 

[AnnMoss]

In the country or small town, people will try to talk to you, stare at you or expect you to greet them, and this for me is the biggest problem with walking in the county on public path.

It's painful. I live in a small town where I used to enjoy cycling the areas that are more wooded and also go for walks. Then I start thinking about whether people will leave me alone and now I just prefer staying in, unfortunately. Especially walking around town. Someone else here mentioned crossing the street when there are people walking towards. I dread that, and if it's a group I often do the same. I dream of being able to live somewhere I can feel anonymous.

 

[AnnMoss]

I also dislike having people in my home or my office.

I've lived in the same apartment for several years and though I live very close to friends I grew up with (and like) and a few close family there have only been two people in here socially the entire time I've lived here. One was a friend I always truly trusted who has always accepted me as I am with no judgment, and my significant other - and that took some time. (And two people who had to fix the internet, hated it). People I know have just come to accept that this is my private cave, my sanctuary, and that it's not personal. "I like you, i just don't want you in here.". Not sure if this is aspie whatsoever, still learning.

 

[AnnMoss]

@SusanLR everything you said, precisely that! You mentioned concerts - I can not express just how upset it makes me at concerts when anyone tries to talk with me, even people that I know who just happen to be there! When that happens it can sometimes take months for me to re-enter that kind of event. I hate feeling that I'm being rude if I were to say, "sorry, I'm here to lose myself in the music. It's not personal, I just want to be alone." Same at night clubs. I want to listen to loud music in the colorful swirling dark and people watch. It's the external simulation I want, to take things in with my own thoughts, other thoughts coming in just clog everything up. Like hair in a drain lol

 

[Fade2black]

I am my best friend, and worst enemie at times. Just not into people, especially the opposite sex which in my case is women. Groups of people quickly sense me as different and seem to turn on me. Enjoy being by yourself but don't be offended when people are close, it's not who you are but it is who they are.

 

[GrownupGirl]

I don't mind some people being around when I go out, probably because I don't usually need to interact with them. It's when there are other people around me in a house that I get anxious.

It's hard to believe that I actually spent almost a year living in a group home with at least ten other people.