DuckRabbit
Well-Known Member
I came across the following helpful definitions:
Aggressive people
● are determined to get what they want whatever the cost to others
● use threats, sarcasm
● want to win/ dominate
● do not respect the rights and feelings of others
Assertive people
● are determined to get what they want while recognising the rights and feelings of others
● are direct and clear in what they ask and do so confidently
● are clear about their rights, status and abilities
Submissive people
● would like to get what they want but are frightened or anxious about the likely reaction of others
● are uncertain about their abilities and rights
● hide their feelings; don’t want to offend
● hope other people will see their plight and help them
● expect to lose in most situations
To use Tony Attwood's schema, I'd theorise that externalising Aspergers tend to use aggression while internalising Aspergers tend to use submissiveness. Which one to you tend to use? And do you think this depends on ASC or on one's particular personality? Or maybe on one's gender and age!
Aggressive people
● are determined to get what they want whatever the cost to others
● use threats, sarcasm
● want to win/ dominate
● do not respect the rights and feelings of others
Assertive people
● are determined to get what they want while recognising the rights and feelings of others
● are direct and clear in what they ask and do so confidently
● are clear about their rights, status and abilities
Submissive people
● would like to get what they want but are frightened or anxious about the likely reaction of others
● are uncertain about their abilities and rights
● hide their feelings; don’t want to offend
● hope other people will see their plight and help them
● expect to lose in most situations
To use Tony Attwood's schema, I'd theorise that externalising Aspergers tend to use aggression while internalising Aspergers tend to use submissiveness. Which one to you tend to use? And do you think this depends on ASC or on one's particular personality? Or maybe on one's gender and age!
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