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Zain

Zain

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  • Zain
    Put in a lot of effort over the past year to make friends and connections. I still feel I have nothing of substance. I have people I can play pool with, drink with, go badminton with, etc, but I feel nothing for the other party. One truth makes it impossible - that I am replaceable, and so are they.
    Zain
    Zain
    One co-worker I talk a lot with called me a friend. I said we're not friends, we are acquaintances. We don't hang out outside of work, although we do share a lot of personal stuff with each other over this period. But this is all to get through the day, for me at least. I want to solve my own problems, not rely on others.
    Zain
    Zain
    I think I will call this experiment off and start giving people monotone, expressionless responses and slowly start to move apart. I though this type of thing would be spiritually potent but it's exhausting and now boring.
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    thejuice
    A lot of people come to the same conclusion. People are complicated.
    Zain
    I feel like the only thing worth talking about is politics, or things in close proximity to it. I can't even laugh at jokes unrelated to serious topics anymore. People say I'm too serious of a person.
    Zain
    I did an ancestry test and just got my results. It's so jarring how accurate the traits category is for me...
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    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice They attempt to predict what features you're likely to have, physically and personality wise. Like whether you're athletic, goal-driven, what eye-colour, hair colour you have, etc.
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    thejuice
    Did they get anything wrong?
    Zain
    Zain
    Definitely. Most of it is not genetics based but most affected by the environment.
    Zain
    Does anyone get bored of speaking one language? Using the same words, in the same tone that you've heard countless times over and over. Thinking in another language can be invigorating, which is sort of weird since you're getting from A to B either way.
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    Masked Man
    Masked Man
    Not really but I am interested in hearing from people who are not from the US who speak multiple languages. It's interesting to me to hear how their brains work, sometimes randomly switching from one language to another.
    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice socially acceptable vocab? What do you mean?
    I also hate having to use simpler words and phrases. A co-worker said that I was posh for using the world "acquaintance". I don't even come up with original thoughts to say anymore, just use a bunch of stock phrases to get by the day without trouble. It's too much effort to come up with a reply, then dumb down that reply for little gain.
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    thejuice
    I see acquaintance as a normal, practical word but it's not how others see it. People take offence if you accidentally drop a word that's too big, its sometimes performative to get under your skin. Offense is largely a power game stemming from deep insecurities and a need for control. Don't apologise for who you are. However it takes practice to code switch, it's actually a worthwhile skill for influence.
    Zain
    What do you guys think of Abed from Community? Any thoughts to share?
    Zain
    Zain
    His ability to mimic entire personalities is something I can do, provided I have enough information to, but I only do this with people I admire in real life, not fictional personalities. I used to but was shamed for it early in life. I still don't know why it's wrong to do so but know it is.
    Zain
    Zain
    I feel I subconsciously do this. A lot of times I notice that even my thinking pattern has changed substantially. More easily recognisable is my change in interests and long-term desires.
    Rocco
    Rocco
    Abed is the most interesting character on the show! Definitely my favorite male role. He is a great actor. ¿Donde esta la bibliotecha? Troy and Abed in the morning!
    Zain
    Women only desire the top 20% of men so only 20% of men will experience fully the pleasures of life and genuine, carnal love. No amount of substances, alcohol, any type of unnatural piece of paper will change this.
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    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Get bent I feel like one the day I had today
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    Steelbookcollector217
    Poor mental health/depression.
    - Poor self perception, social awkwardness
    - Sensitivity to rejection.
    - Lack of their own agency and a tendency to blame others.

    Obviously those issues will keep men alone/single/celibate far more than they will women, women can have those issues and they are more likely to get dates or get into a relationship
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    Steelbookcollector217
    yeah hearing the number 42 fills me with resentment a lot, because i've heard of stories or testimonials about guys/men, from some dating coaches, who reached the age 42 without ever having had a girlfriend before or didn't get their first girlfriend until that age, its a reminder that not everyone gets to date or have relationships in their youth
    Zain
    I practiced a few facial expressions in the mirror for 30 minutes yesterday, especially smiling. I hate having to do mundane things like this to please others, and I wasn’t even satisfied with the results afterwards 😅.
    Zain
    Zain
    I thought about my eye contact as well. I think a mistake I make is thinking only one second is enough (or mandatory), then I can just do what I want with them.
    Zain
    The bad thing about talking to women is that they never mention controversial opinions and always play it safe, especially when it comes to politics. This makes it hard for me to be controversial and ‘spice’ things up. If their guard is up, I feel like I’m on an offense which makea me feel a bit bad.
    Zain
    Zain
    Or I can play safe myself and nothing interesting happens, and we’ve wasted our time.
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    thejuice
    I find a lot of them are very up front about their politics. But controversial, it feels like you're probably right. As you know the genders are drifting apart politically. I'd say be yourself, you enjoy discussing politics, just have an excuse ready if it bombs.
    Zain
    It's getting to that time of the year where my mood begins to shift and worsen. :(
    Some happy news - It's 22 weeks until Christmas.
    Zain
    Planning on learning to drive soon. I wasted a summer not doing anything because travelling is too expensive otherwise.
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    Zain
    Zain
    @Rodafina Neither. I'm indifferent. I'm doing it so I have a plan B in case I get thrown out my home, or if I have housing issues for whatever reason in the future.
    Zain
    Zain
    @FayetheADHDsquirrel Why do you think you can’t?
    Do you live in a big city with public transport at least?
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    I've had a permit twice and never managed to get my license. No, I don't live in a big city. I don't really want to live in a big city either. I just wish I could learn to drive.
    Zain
    Is it necessary to have a presence on social media as a young person?
    I don't have an instagram or a snapchat.. I'm unsure of how much it hurts my chances of finding a gf. I think perhaps people view people without these things with suspicion or something similar.
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    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    FayetheADHDsquirrel
    @honeytoast Yeah, I don't use any of the five you listed either. I've read some things that were open to the general public on a couple of them before but I don't post anything and don't have an account I could tell you how to go to. A past job required something, Facebook I think, but I never used it.
    honeytoast
    honeytoast
    I think people are asking for a Snapchat or something equal to that, because it's a little less personal than a phone number. At least how I see it.
    Zain
    Zain
    @honeytoast It gives a conversation starter and updates people on your life without doing it 1-1. I think this is main thing here.
    Zain
    I just threw up in my brothers' car... smoking and drinking on an empty stomach results in a disaster -- WARNING.
    Zain
    I really wanted to kiss a girl at work today. I would have went for it if we were elsewhere. We kept looking each other up and down, smiling and looking at each others’ lips.
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    thejuice
    Time for a trip to the janitors closet 😂😂😂
    Zain
    I wonder if we will worship AI as "Gods", or that they'll be some sort of technocult.
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    thejuice
    That's an interesting thought! There is a religion shaped hole that has yet filled. Would make a good movie.
    Zain
    Zain
    I think it is inevitable. Consider how easily manipulated people are nowadays by the smartest schemers. We will truly be playthings at some point once AI surpasses pur smartest minds and reaches a certain point of intelligence.
    Zain
    My cat died. We think he was ran over. I don't understand why my family is sad. We live near a busy road. It was only a matter of time.
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    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    It’s important to learn that others will have valid experiences that are different from your own. It is not wrong for you to not feel sad. But neither is it wrong for your mother and sister to feel sad.

    Perhaps, you don’t really get why they are sad, but you get that they are sad. This is a chance to explore the concept of empathy.
    Zain
    Zain
    Ruining your internal state for an animal is wrong and silly. It’s also a waste of money and time spent which should have been spent on a loved one or soneone close.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    It takes a lot of energy away from living to spend too much time dwelling in judgment.

    But how you spend your thoughts and energy is up to you. I’m just offering my perspective, not at all attached to changing yours.

    ☮️
    Zain
    I ate a full pizza with mayonnaise sauce and now I just want to commit suicide. I want to die so bad, I feel like I’ve poisoned myself. Compare this with my previous post. Diet is everything.
    Zain
    Also I just had organic raw eggs mixed with organic raw kefir after not having it for 2 months and I feel so happy right now. I'm just so happy to be alive, almost to tears.
    Zain
    I have a lot of co-workers from Hong Kong. They're all rich and financially set for the rest of their lives. Yet only a couple have families and more than one child. I asked one lady if she has children. She responded by saying she has 3 dogs. I wanted to laugh in her face, but she is a sweet person. They're all well-educated and worked high-stress jobs for 12+ hours a day for many, many years.
    Zain
    Zain
    I was very disgusted at this level of brainwashing. How could such intelligent and rich (the elite) people have superiors pulling their strings determining how many children they could have? What were they working for? Even they could not diverge from societies pressure and government propaganda.
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