@Zain I worry that you have bought into the lies out there. Propaganda often presents information in a way that favors a specific viewpoint, potentially omitting or distorting facts. Propaganda relies on emotional appeals rather than rational arguments to persuade its audience.
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Aspychata
l think the biggest secret is to find someone who totally gets you , and you both have a great connection. Like maybe a spiritual, physical, emotional connection. That's a once in a lifetime lottery ticket. Some never meet that in their lifetime.
Tony Ramirez
@Aspychata I thought that finally happened this year when I at my lowest, but she nearly ruined me. I nearly got hit by a car over 15 times and lost every friend I had since she blocked me. I'm doing better now
Gerald Wilgus
@Aspychata, That happened when I met my spouse. I was looking for a woman who honestly liked the outdoors and she was hoping to meet a guy she could do outdoor activities with. Then, she accepted me wholeheartedly and within a couple of weeks we were lovers and in a committed relationship. 47 years ago and still having adventures.
Tony Ramirez
Again pure luck. Last year and I am naming names, so I hope they see this last year Madison Simon hurt me finally getting over her, then Jade from the Bronx this spring nearly made me commit suicide. But now I am doing better thanks to increase Topamax and forgiveness from friends old and new and yes mostly female.
Gerald Wilgus
@Zain , I call shenanigans on this; "It’s in their DNA to desire to reproduce with the tallest and strongest. Do I need to prove that with a study or is it common sense? Those who aren’t standing out biologically are settled for. Their marriage is lacking true, carnal, genuine love."
Humans are rarely that simplistic, plus, I'm a scientist, so I want data. "common sense" = ignorance
Humans are rarely that simplistic, plus, I'm a scientist, so I want data. "common sense" = ignorance
Aspychata
Happy that you are feeling better Tony. Maybe hold back yourself emotionally next time you meet someone you have a interest in so you won't feel so emotionally attached if it doesn't work out. Sounds like a very special connection @Gerald Wilgus. But l see you worked on yourself prior, so good you did the hard work first.
Zain
@Gerald Wilgus How tall are you, firstly?
Tony Ramirez
@Aspychata I did meet a couple of new women casually. Follow one on Instagram, just comment on art stuff. Meet up twice at a sketch meetup. Never got her number. Snail pace. Another two I meet I just casually talk, no number exchange snail 
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Aspychata
Alright, you are taking it slow, then you come off as a normal guy. Not desperate, not clingy.
Tony Ramirez
I thought I was.
Zain
@Gerald Wilgus Humans are that simplistic. We are just animals. What is healthy, what is good, what is desired doesn't change as we are all the same. Two animals of the same type don't differ from one another. Obviously I'm speaking generally.. outliers exist. Ask a women if they want their man to be shorter, uglier, less symmetrical, etc..
Tony Ramirez
Pure dumb luck, I you and two other people here don't have it. My increase Topamax is making me cope with my forever alone life.
Gerald Wilgus
@Zain: Your meme comes from what I have heard from incel and PUA sites. I object to your characterization because it is patently untrue. And, I think it does a disservice to those of us who had or continue to struggle with unwanted celibacy.
Tony Ramirez
Incels are made not born buddy they are the unlucky.
Aspychata
@Zain , are there shallow women out there that want a 6ft, hot bod, semblance of IQ, etc? Yes, but look at all the shallow men out there, most women realize that their age of over 25 takes them out of the dating pool simply due to their age. And how many women do men divorce in their 50's? You would be shocked, quite a lot
Gerald Wilgus
@Aspychata, 25 and out of the dating pool? Have things changed so much from the '70s? I really did not start dating until I was past 25 and at least in my life . . . working at the Michigan Cancer Foundation and participating in Sierra Club outings, I met some very nice women my age. I enjoyed meeting the shy, quiet, ones. Plus, my spouse is three years older than I.
Gerald Wilgus
@Tony Ramirez, Incels are not merely unlucky, but have issues socially and psychologically:
- Poor mental health/depression.
- Poor self perception, social awkwardness
- Sensitivity to rejection.
- Lack of their own agency and a tendency to blame others.
Being ASD puts us behind the 8-ball on many of these issues and those of us in a relationship had to improve on that before we were successful.
- Poor mental health/depression.
- Poor self perception, social awkwardness
- Sensitivity to rejection.
- Lack of their own agency and a tendency to blame others.
Being ASD puts us behind the 8-ball on many of these issues and those of us in a relationship had to improve on that before we were successful.