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Recent content by Fade2black

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    Mother's day, Birthdays and Holidays

    I've always hated them all. Yesterday, I should have called my 78yo mother, but I didn't. I sent her an email to say Happy Mothers day and I'm sure it broke her heart that I didn't call. But, I couldn't. It's just too difficult to be fake when the only reason for being celebratory is because...
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    ASD and empathy

    I am acutely empathetic if I'm a third party when I'm on the outside looking in. When I'm the primary, for example someone is talking about having a bad day, I tend to be agitated with thoughts of how trivial some things constitute as a bad day for people not on the spectrum. If these people...
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    External meltdowns vs Internal meltdowns

    Everyone is aware of the external meltdowns. But, there is very little said about the internal meltdowns. Somewhere along the way when I was in my teens, my meltdowns became internal. On the outside, I appeared to be unemotional. Yet, on the inside, there was a typhoon of emotions and rage...
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    Children with Autism vs Adults with Autism

    I agree, multiple studies have shown when people are repeatedly told they are oppressed, they begin to believe they are oppressed and they create limitations that only exist in their own mind. I was officially diagnosed in my 50's. Although I always knew I was different while never knowing...
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    I'm right, and they are wrong yet they are not smart enough to know

    The study came from within my division of the United Nations when I was posted in SE Asia in which I had to approve before it went to publication. I didn't approve the study results because they were indeed, flawed. So no, I am not going to post an unapproved UN report to be scrutinized in an...
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    Children with Autism vs Adults with Autism

    I've noticed recently that the general public is recognizing the problem of Autism in children and making efforts to cater to these kids. The garbage man now stops and says hello. The Policeman lets the autistic kid sit in the car and turn the siren on. Some donors are sending Autistic kids to...
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    Feeling left out

    Being excluded for simply being different is difficult to deal with. I've struggled with this for 57 years. I look normal yet there is something that stands out as different and that causes people to avoid me. As I write this, I'm eating breakfast by myself at Waffle House and the waitress is...
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    I'm right, and they are wrong yet they are not smart enough to know

    Like most Aspies, I'm a pattern thinker. On a recent review of statistical data, a study came up written by a well-renowned Ph.D. about morning rush hour traffic, patterns and accidents with the hypothesis concluding that there would be fewer accidents and better flowing traffic if all drivers...
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    Mistakes at work

    OP, interesting because like you, I'm a male and I too can move swiftly once I've figured out the systems I'm working with. And like you've I've been called out for minor errors throughout my career. I'm 57, so I think I have a few decades on you, and during those decades I've learned a few...
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    Any forums geared more toward the male aspie?

    I like these forums but most topics end up being female-heavy causing the male perspective to be diluted, and in some cases oppressed. If there are no forums for male aspies, I'd like to suggest one.
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    Please release me from this friendship...

    Just my .02 to add; Most aspies that I know are experts at ending relationships with friends, family, spouses, etc. and never looking back.
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    Do females on the autism spectrum emulate other females?

    I don't think it's limited to females. I think we all look at others who're socially inclined for ways to act and behave more normal.
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    Who are you least likely to get along with?

    For me rules and boundaries have meaning. Rules provide structure, stability and consistency. The people I'm least likely to get along with are liberal or artistic people who see the world as fluid and feel that fewer rules are better. For me, this is disturbing because I'm unable to follow the...
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    Am I ugly? Or average?

    There are a lot of women on this board that takes offense when I talk about male/female relationships. Hopefully, I won't be reprimanded again for having a male opinion and perspective on this again. OP, I did the online dating for years and I can say that "most" women on these dating sites are...
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    Excess maturity instead of excess immaturity

    My take on this is that our social difficulties make it easier to have fun with kids and adults who're much younger where we stack up more equally, socially. The older people are easier to be around because they are more mature and less likely to ostracize.
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