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my situation

my situation is this, i currently live with my parents, my sister, her partner and their two children in a 3 bedroom house (turned into a four bedroom with me sleeping downstairs) given i hate loud noises the fact that the living room is right next door should give you an idea of the noise level in my room because of said children

i spend most of my time in my room because when a) when i go out of my room the noise gets louder b) i am attacked by said children and c) i am more likely to be asked to do things.

add into this my poor diet (i cannot cook for the most part and the things i can cook are basic and unhealthy) the things in the fridge are for everyone (regardless of who put it there most of the time) so when i buy something unless its very odd there is even odds of someone else taking it as 'they didnt know who bought it ' or 'it was in the fridge so its for everyone' when i try to take advantage of this 'rule' by buying something intended for everyone it is not eaten...WTF.

the water from the tap to me is undrinkable (no adding squash does not help) if i try to buy a filter to put in the fridge there is supposedly 'not enough space' so unless i can afford a table top fridge for my room there is no chance of fresh water thus why i have to drink things from bottles, this has led to much dental work and continually failing dental health, add in no job/shopping being done once a week/inability to cook/anything in the fridge unlikely to be there to eat when you come back for it later you get my continually failing PHYSICAL health.

i am a hermit because i cannot deal with people so going out is ...difficult, moving out would be impossible and every bloody member of my family has a partner! my ex i have discovered is 17 weeks pregnant now never look up your ex on facebook) her life has vastly improved while mine has rotted away.

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Hi Kchapman. Sorry to hear that you are going through this :unhappy: Have you talked about what you are going through with members of your family? Do they know the extent of how things are going for you? Just wondering because I feel it would help if members of your family had a good grasp of your situation, and it seems like (from your post) that they are unaware of how things are going for you.
 
A few things come to mind while reading your story.

- Inability to cook? Why? You really, really, really can't? Or is it something you haven't tried a lot. Besides... there's probably some meals that are so easy to prepare and still taste good (and are healthy). I'm no chef either, but I can manage to heat up things, mix ingredients and follow some directions on a package. (though you can wonder what exactly cooking is). Perhaps you should look online what's good and what's stuff you actually like (like, what kind of ingredients)
- No job (and limited finances) is something I'm quite familiar with, but isn't there something like disability income for you? Or social security? It would be a start to start saving up some money to move out and on your own, since this environment you're living in isn't helping you at all.
- I also concur with Jacki. Have you ever told people in the house you're having problems with this? Being asked a chore isn't the end of the world... and if people ask you for chores all the time, the moment you leave your room, one can wonder if they're waiting for you to leave your room. The loudness can be a serious issue which should be adressed. Being attacked by children... why aren't the parents of said children acting responsible and telling them that it's not ok? Have you told them this? (and while I don't advocate violence against children; warn them to stop this "or else".)

The thing about your ex... I don't know if being pregnant is that much better. It opens a hole new list of issues you have to deal with ;)
 

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