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I don't know if you want feedback on this blog entry of yours, but here goes;

Somehow I wonder if you have made any "rules" regarding these issues with your mom.

If it where me, I'd probably open up a can of "well, can you prove that I'm not pulling my own weight?"... I had a similar situation up to the point where I told me dad to install seperate electricity meters, a seperate gas meter (for my heating), as well as my more active involvement on what's on for dinner... to where he found it too much of an intrusion of HIS living and his way of doing, so he said nevermind.

With what you're saying I think you're already trying to cut back on things to make the overall cost of living at your house cheaper. You're not wasting anything from the looks of it on top of you chipping in to cover costs. What more does she want? Does she want you to get a job? If so, with that might come a big debate a lot of us have going on; can you file for disability income? If not? Do you have employment perspectives? If you can't get a job, I do somewhat wonder how your mom thinks it's going to work out.

Assuming 1988 in your username is your year of birth, this makes you 23 or 24... if your mom knows your situation, I still think the least she can do is help you figure out a sensible solution instead of nagging and complaining. I don't think that you being "a grown up" (as some people would put it) is really the issue here, fact is; you're in a situation and you need some understanding, advice and perhaps a kick in the butt to get stuff sorted out. Passive agressive behaviour like your mom displays isn't helping here.

If she wants you to pull your own weight, I think she does need to understand your situation (aside from that I find it a bold statement with no exact data like I said earlier) and perhaps point you in a direction that actually is of any use. Just making (bold) statements isn't helping anyone... I mean, we all can tell someone "you're doing it wrong" all day, helping someone in the right direction is a totally different thing.

to be honest while i don't do a great deal around the house unless asked specificly 'can you do THIS please' i don't spend a a lot if any time outside of my room making mess, plates end up building up a little in my room so normally i put them in the dishwasher when i'm cleaning.

i get E.S.A (employment and support allowance) and disability living allowance (which i give to my mum as rent) the thing is my mum is disabled, has bi-polar and pretty much does the same as me thou she cant move a great deal.

my brother in law and i are the only ones around the house on a day to day basis that are physically capable of moving around, i've stopped drinking so much softdrink which was all that was keeping me awake (the pills i'm on keep me on an even keel when i dont forget to take them they put me to sleep without the unhealthy amount of caffine )

as for getting a job i'm trying to make the chainmail jewelry which the jobcenter say is a viable buisness. just need to get things sorted so i'm actually able to consistantly do it