Asperger's & Autism Forum

I had an upsetting conversation with my sister a few days ago that I'm wondering if other autistics have experienced. I've struggled with depression and anxiety my entire life, both rooting from autism (Asperger's) and childhood emotional neglect (I'm sure the majority of autistics who did not get the parental love and support they needed as children will understand lifelong struggles with depression and anxiety all too well). I've survived but have never thrived, as the saying goes.

My question is this: has anyone here ever had to defend themselves or "justify" their autistic tendencies/behaviors to people who don't have a clue what it's like? Have you been told to just get over it, that your struggles and symptoms are a voluntary choice, and that you're to blame if you can't "just get over it"?

I'm particularly interested in hearing from people here who have struggled with depression/anxiety. It's a terrible, embarrassing feeling when you're put on trial and told you're...

Just thought our insight would be interesting on the bizarre and curious things that happen world wide and talk about them here.

Thinking about one of the most frustrating, lifelong traits I've dealt with. Clumsiness, and terrible hand-eye coordination. I'm always dropping things, struggling to operate small knobs and switches, and trying not to knock things over. Walking on icy sidewalks is almost impossible, and when I was forced to try softball as a kid, I could never make the bat connect with the ball.
I wish I could learn to dance, juggle, ice skate, ski, or something requiring coordination, but it would be easier to teach my dog to do them.
Anyone here had lifelong struggles with clumsiness?

Dear parents of children with autism:

I am conducting a survey so I can determine factually what works and what doesn't in respect to helping children with autism in any tiny, detectable way. I need honest feedback. Here are a few questions:

1) What therapy or treatment have you used last for your autistic child?

2) What were your initial impressions and expectations about this treatment/therapy?

3) During and towards the completion of the administered treatment/therapy, did you observe any significantly noticeable improvement in your child's behavior?

4) How long did you use this treatment/therapy?

5) Did you use the treatment/therapy only once?

6) Would you highly recommend it to other parents of children with autism? Why or why not?

I truly appreciate your taking the time to complete this survey.

Okay, everyone. I need your input. Have you run into the issue of NTs needing "validation"? I'll tell you why I ask.

My ex (still friend) and I broke up and went back and forth for 10 months before realizing we needed to cut it out. It's emotionally exhausting. I told him, and he agreed, that I think we are 1/2 soulmates and 1/2 toxic for each other.

We encountered challenges with each other. I had difficulty accepting certain behaviors (anger outbursts and him disputing my observations/comments all the time- invalidating interactions for me) and he had to deal with my depression and low energy.

Sadly, we failed to communicate like we should have, so lots of things have come out during our break-up discussions. We also screwed up by failing to continue to see our therapist who had really helped.

While I've learned a ton on here and through reading other material, there are certain things I still can't understand. One example is I used to ask him for compliments and he did...

So my obsession is me time. I don't get why people think they can change me. My mom was shocked when l married. Because l always spent a lot of time alone doing things as a teen. Didn't marry until about 38, and didn't care l wasn't married. I have many life experiences, l am content in my lifetime. We should have a national alone day off where we rejoice in nothing but quiet time. I help a older lady at this place l work with her cat. But the minute l came out, some older guy who creeps me out is in my face. So today l stay home and celebrate my aloneness.

How do you handle pushy people? Do you feel that people seem to feel that they need to involve themselves in your life? Social norms are that you need to respect (fill in your words)......

Hey,

I was hoping some of you may be able to help me understand my partner better. It's a long post, so I hope you're bored enough to read it

We've been together 2 and a half years, and have a 6 month old child together.

We met online, on a MBTI forum, and dated long distance for 18 months before moving in together. Since we have moved in together, our relationship is really struggling, for a multitude of reasons.. But one of the main reasons is just his personality, and my inability to understand it. Which I know might sound absurd, stating that over two years in... Or perhaps it's my inability to come to terms with it.

When we spoke online and got to know each other he was fun, playful and full of bravado. Our relationship was simply a passing friendship, until he invited me to a concert (my favourite band and one of his), and then it turned romantic from there.

The next year was really enjoyable, we spoke over text all the time and we hooked up for a few days every 2-3...

How much satisfaction do you get from buying something you want? I guess it's commonly thought that things don't give you friendship or love, but I disagree. Sometimes they can seem like very good, loyal friends.
I admit that my favorite part of ordering something is the anticipation of opening the box. I've been known to keep the box sealed and wait until a day or two before the return deadline, because the anticipation is almost always greater than the reality.

Don't know if it's a good thing or a bad thing, but I've become dependent on this forum for my socializing. Sometimes I just come up with something to talk about because I like hearing back from you. I get aggravated when I hear something negative said about on-line communities and that they aren't real because I feel like they are real. Matter of fact, more real than people in real life.
I don't like talking to people on the phone - don't know what to say. I'm in a panic state when I try to socialize in person. Here, it's okay to not agree, but we're sharing thoughts and feelings that are real. So when I feel like I want to be around friends, or I want to talk - this is where I turn. And we can all actually relate to each other, which I'm so not used to.

A lady at church a couple weeks ago told me she was a lot like me, that if she had her way she'd stay home. I wanted to ask her if she'd go as far as asking her boss to put her on a weekend shift to avoid having to...

Yeah, I do plan on writing stuff about SCP Foundation. Since some SCPs are really freaking terrifying, I am gonna do the cutest and least deadly of them all first. Anyways, here is SCP-999: The Tickle Monster.
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Object Class: Safe
Special Containment Procedures: SCP-999 is allowed to freely roam the facility should it desire to, but otherwise must stay in its pen. Subject is not allowed out of its pen at night or off facility grounds at any time. Pen is to be kept clean and food replaced twice daily. All personnel are allowed inside SCP-999’s holding area, but only if they are not assigned to other tasks at the time, or if they are on break. Subject is to be played with when bored and spoken to in a calm, non-threatening tone.
Description: SCP-999 appears to be a large, amorphous, gelatinous mass of translucent orange slime, weighing about 54 kg (120 lbs) with a consistency similar to that of peanut butter. Subject’s size and shape constantly change, though most of the time...