Asperger's & Autism Forum

I took this from another forum. I think it’s so true. Context matters. It could be all of the above too. Unreliability once in awhile happens. Every time, though, is not cool. There are so many reasons...
Selfishness & lack of empathy
Laziness
Poor time management
Lack of funds
Just don't care...everything is a take it or leave it proposition at best
Too busy with work/family
Conflict avoidance-put off saying "no" until last minute
Moodiness
The small, routine things to most people are big things to certain people, and they let them get in the way, or use as an excuse from doing other less routine things.
None of these reasons are good, but some are worse than others.
If you know these are issues with you, it seems it would be good to tell your friend/partner/date something along these lines. Don't say it in a way that you are trying to use it as an excuse or cover up, but rather as a way to be honest and what you will try to work on because you care and respect yourself...

I have come across a crisis in terms of meeting women.

Have tried all major dating websites for a month created profile uploaded my pictures and liked about 100 women on each website, i went for the most unattractive and down to earth looking women who dress simple or have no makeup or overweight.

In one month i got zero likes back from either website.

Only got few like 5 messages from women who are 15 years older than me (45-50) and some of whom are single mothers.

I tried Craigslist "platonic relationship" section before they took it down to find that i get zero answers there either.

So i come to a point where i have no effective way to meet women online.

Now regarding offline. I can meet women offline on the street, however they all are so trashy and low life i have no use for them because i am trying to get a long term relationship.

Any advice?

I'm an Aspie guy interested in an Aspie female who is extremely withdrawn and difficult to read. We have great conversations a but I can not tell if the interest is mutual.

So im pretty upset at the moment so this post might be a little hard to follow.

I am asexual with a history of abuse. I do not enjoy sex, I hate it, borderline disgusts me. I am also descovering myself to have touch aversion. Like touching accedently while sitting next to soneone im mostly ok, but hugging in general or cuddling from anyone including my husband is getting increasingly irritating. We almost never touch now.

That being said he is very physical. I personally think he has a sex dependency. Hes always grabbing for me, when were in bed he drapes his arms and legs over me "cuddling" and "just holding" me but it makes me feel trapped for one, and second it irritates me to the point of anger or anxiety. He feels like I dont love him anymore and actually accused me of "youre only here because you have no where to go and youre just using me til you find something better."

But then some days I come hone from work and I WANT to be held. I want to lay my head in his lap and...

I've uploaded a new video last night.
In this video, I had discussed my views on alcohol.

I thought that I'll leave this there to discuss amongst yourself whether you perhaps drink or you don't drink.

Have you ever had a problem with alcohol? Some you have and needed to maybe go through rehab of some kind. I do drink, I am not a alcoholic, just like to drink to relax these days.

Every time I go into the city I have people who I didn't even make eye contact with start talking crap. I think It's because It was a weekday and I wasn't dressed in business casual...idk that's all I can figure. There was no reason, I didn't even look at them. Anybody have a similar experience? I didn't have twinkie smeared all over my face, I wasn't doing anything at all to provoke these random utterances. This happened several times so it's not the person. Don't give me the "I've never seen people act like that" bit. I wasn't stoned I was stone cold straight.

Well, needless to say, I don't like people that much anymore. You wouldn't either. I used to be a hippy and was all like, love everybody but not anymore. I find myself filled with hatred. The people who were my friends and family are just like everybody else. I feel like they only have me around because of pity and I hate that! They feel better about themselves because, in their withered brains, they are better than...

Ok so I've recently confided in a work mate that I'm autistic. I don't know why I did it. I've kept it secret for so long. I think subconsciously I wanted to see what an average persons reaction would be. Oh what a big mistake I made.

I work in construction which is not a job for the faint hearted loud overcrowded and labour intensive, people shouting, swearing and spitting, brutal name calling and bullying, confrontation and arguing. Basically a living hell for an aspie.
I've been a builder for 11 years now and have learned to live with it. I survive by keeping myself to myself and not really getting involved with anyone. Although there have been a few occasions where I've been targeted but nothing compared with what I've had to deal with recently. Turns out the person who told had a loose tongue because by the end of the week everyone knew. Now I'm called retard Dan by everyone and I mean everyone. Even my labourer is calling me names. And retard dan isn't the only thing that...

is there a point autistic kids realize or are told they have a condition. Do they realize their own limitations, and why they are limited, or will they always resent you for not allowing them the freedoms, or imposing all the restrictions you impose on them, that are not imposed on other children?

I need some advice on the proper way to discipline a 7 year old autistic ball of fire.
My wife (grandson’s grandmother) in my opinion treats the boy too much like the boy is a baby.
Away from my wife, the kid is well behaved around me. I’m not a hard ass with the boy, but I call him out when he doesn’t listen, or when he doesn’t do what he is told, my wife let’s him skate on both, always citing his autism. She will go as far as telling me the kid is scared of me, which I do not see at all.
The child’s mother (our daughter) has expressed that when the boy comes home after spending a few nights with his grandmother, is unruly and misbehaved.

So my question is this, is there anything wrong interacting with an autistic child as you would a child with no autism? Should you not demand the same behavior, discipline the child the same way you would a child without autism?

I can’t help from thinking babying the child with autism, defeats the puropose of achieving a normal...

Alright, so this is going to be a bit lengthy, but any advice or help/support is welcome. I will try to list the questions so that they can be found with and without all the lengthy explanation.

Questions:

- Any advice on how to converse about something that isn't "hey, how are you? how's work? what's the weather like?"

- How can I pretend the best friend I have isn't someone I am afraid to lose? (I have noticed my fear of losing him clouds my ability to understand him and communicate properly)

I want to start this by admitting that I haven't ever been on forums before, and until my best friend found some in his quest to understand me, I never even realized the internet had forums specifically for Asperger's and others like us or on the spectrum and their loved ones. I have been poking around since last night and I keep seeing stories that I can relate to, so I am not worried as I would be about being judged.

My best friend and I (though, currently to him I am a "when I find...