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Why I Feel That Self-Diagnosis Is Valid With ASD
So I was talking to my autistic son last night. He has not done any reading at all about autism; he's only listened to me talk about it. In addition to being unconvinced that he is autistic (see second sentence), he also mentioned that he feels like calling himself autistic would not be fair to those who have been formally diagnosed--that self-diagnosing might be seen as trivializing the condition. And to be honest, I felt the same way when I first began to suspect that I'm autistic. As I mentioned in another post, once I started reading, the evidence became overwhelming, but even so, at some point, something flipped in my brain about the validity of a self-diagnosis. I wanted to mention my reasons and see what y'all had to add. Maybe it will help someone. Maybe it will just satisfy my curiosity.
I don't think I'm treading new ground here. Rather, I suspect I'm verbalizing for myself what many of you have already figured out.
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Feeling Self Conscious about looks
So, I know I don’t look drop dead gorgeous. But i’m not sure where I rate on a scale of 1-10, i’ve never dated or been in a relationship.
Few people praise me Bar my parents. I notice when I make an effort I don’t get too many compliments.
Yesterday I was at a special event, so I dressed up. Following the event I took a photo on put it on FB. I don’t upload unless I think it looks respectable.
Anyway, just received a few likes. No likes from friends etc. Made me feel very insecure and self conscious.
Not sure why my photos don’t get likes, but it’s something that I notice. Very upsetting.
(Why wouldn’t friends and family like my photo?)
Makes me wonder if people don’t want me to do well.
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How can you tell when you’re ready for bed?
Sometimes I think I’m ready for bed I become sleepy take my medicine for the night lay down and become awake.
I don’t know if this is Due to the medicine or due to the fact I can’t tell when I’m tired enough to sleep.
Anyone have any ideas or suggestions on what I can do to sleep better .
By the way I do not currently go to school and I have a job at the moment so I don’t really need to get up on a daily basis at the same time .
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Work, work, and more work (literally)
Right now at my work (recycling industry) we are cramming in massive hours, and to make a long story short I see very light end to it because we are behind in sorting... Basically every work day is 10 hours (Monday to Friday)... We are working this Saturday on a weekend! (Ugh!) and we worked nine hours on Good Friday...
Essentially I still feel worn out, I feel like my spare time is being ripped away from me because of my lack of energy, even my weekends don't seem long enough...
And I'm getting grumpier and grumpier by the day... This may sound weird, but I'm getting slightly depressed because I feel (I know) it's affecting my photography and my interest in the arts scene, which for me is a major special interest, just simply the time to do it, like having my Saturday afternoon ripped away from me because of a work shift...
I don't understand how other people can be cheerful around me at work in the midst of it, I'm irritated and having trouble staying positive lately, and... -
What flags did you miss before you were diagnosed?
A lot of the "Hi, I'm new here" posts mention past signs that they should have recognized. It made me think about the flags I saw in myself but didn't recognize as signs of being on the spectrum.
The big one was when I told a friend of mine that I just watch normal people and do what they do.
Another is that fact that I've known since I was 14 that I am physically incapable of sitting still.
I didn't know what masking and stimming were, so the signs went unrecognized. After the diagnosis, a lot of other things clicked, but those two signs have been in plain view for decades.
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Sympathy or Empathy?
I've had long conversations with people explaining they do not think I have autism during to the fact I feel forms of empathy but I never know how to act upon the feelings.
Just wondering if you guys agree that people with autism lack empathy or sympathy. See I thought empathy was the one someone with autism had difficulties with, such as putting yourself in that person's position to understand their feelings. Sympathy is just feeling sorry for someone or knowing they are having trouble is some form and just having the feeling their but not being able to Express it.
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Lost grammar: where did it all go wrong?
There isn't much that irritates me more than poor grammar which is commonplace in the media and portrayed by pundits who really ought to know better.
And it's made worse by the fact that is going unchallenged. I wonder why companies like Sky Sports and the radio station talkSPORT are either unaware or simply do not care.
I wonder what is being taught in our schools and where this has fallen down. Children copy adults and so maybe this is where the fault lies. They think it is correct to use OF instead of HAVE and THEM instead of THOSE.
You see it on forums too and it drives me insane. I am tempted to be pedantic and quote but I resist.
I tweeted TALKSPORT earlier about guest Dean Saunders who was talking about Manchester United, saying that they had "done well in THEM games"
"I should OF done that" instead of "I should HAVE done that" is another mystery and irritant.
I wonder WHEN this laziness and illiteracy first crept in.
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Evaluation
Hi All,
I had the first part of my evaluation over the phone last night. Wow I feel drained! I consider myself very intelligent. I never had to study in school, always got straight A’s, I’m very good at understanding scientific concepts, etc. But that evaluation was so hard for me. The psychologist said two words and I had to come up with something they had in common. I literally could not think of anything to say for “anchor” and “fence.”
I also bombed a section where the psychologist said a string of numbers and I had to put them in the correct order while saying them back to her. For example, she would said “7, 9, 2, 9, 1” and I would have to say back “1, 2, 7, 9, 9.” I kept forgetting what she said
I also know I did horrible on the math test. There was a word question “if Tom has 99 pies, and Chris has half as many pies, how many pies does Chris have?” I panicked for some reason and could not figure it out. I said 44.5
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First to arive, first to leave?
I used Google but got nothing. I am wondering is it normal for a Aspie to get to an event early less crowed then when it ends big crowd be the last to leave?
I am asking because I am finally attending an Church and starting to socialize. They are friendly but I remembered when I use to socialize I did the same thing a decade ago. -
What Hogwarts house would you be in, and why?
If you’re a fan of Harry Potter, then chances are you’ve spent perhaps a little too much time thinking about what house you’d be in. Personally, I was never that interested in the main plot of the books or films, however, I was intrigued by some of the concepts of such a World. I preferred to spend more time thinking about different Hogwarts’ houses, how magic works in this fictional universe, and magical creatures.
So, if I were a student at Hogwarts, then I’d probably spend a good portion of my spare time researching telekinesis and reading up on magical creatures. That’s why I relate more to Newt Scamander than I did to Harry Potter. I know that it’s a controversial opinion, but I actually found Fantastic Beasts And Where To Find Them more enjoyable than the main Harry Potter series.
I can almost hear the booing now. Yes, I know. How could I? Some might say that I’m not a true fan because of this. Implying that there’s some sort of requirement list you need to meet in order to...
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