Asperger's & Autism Forum

I find it very difficult to have goals. Is it a depression thing or Autism? Or maybe I am just a boring person? That can be...
The reality is that most of the time I feel bored but nothing seems to interest me...I find no utility for doing certain things and if it is not usefull I just don't do it. Maybe it just have to be fun!!! Am I being a complete fool by not enjoying life? I guess I know you're answer but I need to ear it from you.

Hey, I'm Renzo and I got a question for you guys. I recently started an organization called Autistic Spirits and I'm looking for some problems me & my team can solve. So go ahead and get your struggles of your chest!

I made soup for the preacher's wife because she recently had back surgery and can't get around yet. He mother is staying with them to help out. Anyway, I decided I wanted to make some soup and take it over there. Now I can't get myself to take it over there. They'll insist I come in - and I'll feel like I need to go in and speak to the wife, and the preacher, and the mother. Be in their home when I feel like the preacher is having a hard time accepting who I am and is always stressing doing things that I find so hard to do - like visiting the sick. It's going to be completely awkward and I will spend the entire time trying to figure out how to get out of there. I mean, just thinking about it puts me in panic mode.

Many of us find offline socializing to be very draining/difficult, I am curious if anyone else finds online socializing to also be draining/difficult.

And if yes, is it to the same degree?

Are the reasons the same or different?

For me the reasons for it being draining and difficult are largely the same, the only reason unique to online socializing is the lack of nonverbal information (like tone of voice and facial expressions....which I use to help me understand certain things when words alone won't do it or I can't understand the words.)

For me, online socializing can be less draining or more draining than offline socializing...it really depends on the specific interaction.

So much. My uniqueness as opposed to looking, acting and thinking like everyone else.

My happiness with being alone. As often as everyone finds themselves alone, some are just not able to handle it and feel lost and lonely. Yet, being alone is inevitable at times for everyone. So I like that I enjoy this time and used to feel like I just couldn't get enough of it.

I like feeling excited about whatever it is I'm working on or researching or doing.

I like seeing facts that others around me don't seem to be able to see. Though, it is frustrating when they think I'm just seeing from my perspective like they do.

I like that I can dress comfortable and not worry about trying to keep up with fads.

I actually like that the food I like is limited and simple - easier to keep groceries in the house and not have to figure out what I might want this day or that - I already know.

I basically like who I am. It's when I'm trying to fit in and be what I'm not that I'm not happy.

I see so many people here speaking negatively about themselves. Being depressed and acting as though Asperger's is a curse. Yet the main reason I see for people feeling this way isn't because they are in physical pain, or because something horrible has happened in their life, but because they are unable to fit in.

I look at being neurotypical or neurodiverse the same way as I look at being a man or woman, American or Australian, black or white. There's nothing wrong with being different, and just as a French person can never be Japanese, a neurodiverse person can never be neurotypical.

That's ok. There is a huge pressure within society to "fit in" with other people. You likely were conditioned throughout life to make it a goal to be like other people, but there's no reason to feel that way. Being different is ok. I know that it's stressful for someone who is anti-social to attract attention by standing out, but the only obstacle in the way of happiness is changing that attitude...

The asperger's. Doesn't it feel like every waking moment you are in detention?

My mom says that Autistic adults don’t have the same rights as non autistic adults . She says they have autistic rights. I don’t believe this my mom has borderline personality disorder so I feel like this is just another way for her to control me . Is it true? If it’s not where can I find proof to show her and prove her wrong ? I’m trying to move out because I can’t take living with her toxicity any more and of course she doesn’t want me to do that and is finding every stupid excuse to prevent Mecum from being able /allowed to do so . I’m 21.

i enjoy being alone. I’ve tried different groups, teams, organization and even joined a a Fraternity in college but really hated all of it. Why does the NT world always get upset when someone is by themselves? I have a wife and I’d say she is my only friend and I’m ok with that.

Do you guys think it’s weird I do most things by myself? I’ve alway thought people slow me down or get in the way. Maybe I’m just scared of being let down,..I’m not sure.

All I can say if I’m sitting alone at a pub , restaurant, lunch at work please don’t try and force me to join your group because “I shouldn’t be sitting all alone”

Yes, conversations lead to other conversations and questions. So - I'm sure I'm not the only one who just can not ask for help with things. What would it take for you to ask for help? I'm not talking being here, asking advice, I'm talking physical help.
As I said in a response, I pre-plan everything I do in a sense so I will not be asking for help. Example - when I was working at the hospital, if I had a task (like starting an iv) I would make certain I had everything I needed (and extra just in case) before even entering the room. Everyone else - it'd irritate me because they'd call from the room - could you bring me such and such? Why didn't you get it before starting??? Sometimes it seems like it's deliberate because it's such a simple thing to do. I'm talking about other nurses whose training involves planning.
And, yes, the reason my back and neck are in the condition they're in is because I'd never ask for help pulling patients up in bed or whatever. If they were...