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[smith2267]

In vet school, they used to remind us "cats are not small dogs."
By a similar token, I think women are not small men.
I don't treat my female friends the same way I do the male ones (although I have had any male ones for a long time). Women like to talk more and about different things than men do. You can have a closeness with a female friend that would feel weird with a guy.
I let my female friends (almost all have been NT I think) yammer all they want, and if it's important to them or otherwise interesting to me, I try to make pertinent comments. They all have independently called me a good listener.
Point is, I do NOT think female friends like to be treated like guy friends, like someone recently suggested on another thread.
What do you think? I'm aspie so it goes without saying I am not an expert on p[eople.

 

[Deno]

You mean like Ruben suggested on his thread. I think your being too sex-specific here. Everyone is different, and everyone wants to be treated a certain way. No two women want to be treated the exact same way, because everyone is different. Just as you treat one guy differently from the next, you also do this with women do you not? It is too generalized, and so incorrect IMO, to say you must treat women different than men. Some women certainly like to be treated more like men, and some men more like women. At least that's my opinion. Still waiting on Soup or Dizzy to comment ;P

 

[Soup]

Got to be careful what you assume about what women are like & men are like. I'm a petite woman. I am unemotional, don't yammer or giggle, do not get sappy ever, don't watch chick flicks or eat chick food. I look like many cutesy petite NT females (BUT other Aspies & Auties, dogs & cats etc. notice I'm different). I'm not sensitive & romantic & like many typical guys, I'm solution oriented. I hate going shopping, I NEVER EVER do those girl's night out thingys or go to beauty salons since I hate being prodded & picked over. I'm very logical & a good reasoner.

When it was said in that other thread to treat the female friends like male friends, I think the writer (RubenX pls correct me if I've misinterpreted your post!) meant NOT to HIT on the poor girl, stare at her body parts, make comments about how you like this or that about her appearance & just generally keep your sexuality to yourself as you would with your male friends. Taken to literally, it could mean having a 'crushing beer cans on your forehead' competition, arm-wrestling or tackle football! Although many women DO enjoy these things, a majority of us aren't physically built for it (come to think of it, few MEN are either).

It's so easy to get to know 9 or 10 women (or Chinese guys, or Nigerians etc.) & form broad generalizations about what 'they' are like.

 

[Nolan1971]

I agree you can't judge a book by it's cover. I have a wide spectrum of behavior from wild party guy/ thrill seeker to quite way laid back hippie and everything
in between. Content to spend hours in the wild just enjoying nature to wanting to go sky diving, wrestle an alligator or other dangerous sport.:bounce:

 

[Soup]

I just re-read this: you go sky-diving & wrestle alligators?!? Sky-diving s very popular here & I have a gorgeous female cousin who does it as a sport/hobby. My husband also is thinking of trying this. As for gators, we just don't have them here & I can't see what my motive would be for provoking one.

 

[Nolan1971]

I am so comfortable with alligators/crocs that I would jump on the back of one to capture it if needed.
One time I went to the prairie and it was nice and crowded with alligators I counted 50-100 along the path
many of which were on the path. I just casually walked among them like people at a busy train station getting only inches from alot of them
without a drop of fear. Blissful excitement but no fear! Much like Steve Irwin I would kiss them on the snout but for their safety I don't want them to trust humans
too much.

 

[Biblio-Love]

All people are varied, and it is impossible to make accurate generalizations. Having said that, I can speak about my own experiences. I was a tom-boy when young, and felt like an outsider most of my life. In later high school I had some friends and most were boys. I found girls too talkative and they usually talked about things I found very shallow. In university, however, I had no problem finding like-minded women. As an adult, I steer clear of those I find too judgmental or immature, regardless of gender. The few friends I have now accept me for who I am, and do my best to support them in my own aspie way.

 

[Nolan1971]

This is a good example of what the trail looks like on a really good day! The first pic is an example of how congested the path was.
I was the only one who dared to walk right through them.

This pic is adorable!