ConeyFlyLand
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So, I met a man with Aspergers, 30's who is very high functioning and is a scientist. He's working on a pretty intense research project at the moment and helming the project.
I met him a few years back and he made the first move, we became reacquainted at the new year and he told me he was in a pressured situation with work and that he was trying to find the right balance in his life.
He had pre-warned me that if he felt bothered he would withdraw. Well there was a misstep in our communication and I was a bit reactive via text where I wondered when he was going to get back to me. And he responded saying that while he liked me he feared that my impatience and pushiness wouldn't change.
Arghhhh... I have bad past relationships with narcissist that I'm recovering from and I sometimes act out. I've been getting therapy but when I get nervous and still hurting from the past with not nice men, I experience rejection and can be reactive. I feel really bad of course that I acted that way.
After thinking about it I decided to get him a little, I'm sorry, present. I hand crafted the whole thing and it was very personalized. I wrote a little note with it saying something like this (what do you think),
Dear (name),
I hope this present finds you well. I bought this to symbolize that I really
would like to connect with you and I'd like a fresh start if that's ok? As I
did feel bad about that misstep in communicating with you via text. You
explained that if things bothered you, you might withdraw and I totally
understand that. But I am asking if you'll consider opening up again to
another conversation and to connect. I most certainly didn’t want you to
have a poor impression of me.
Whatever you decide, I do wish you much success in your research.
I meant it when I said, I find what you’re doing inspiring.
I hope these gifts give you a little inspiration and encouragement right
now, with all the pressure in your life. Maybe these presents could be a nice conversation starter.
Sincerely and w/ Kindness,
-Me
I met him a few years back and he made the first move, we became reacquainted at the new year and he told me he was in a pressured situation with work and that he was trying to find the right balance in his life.
He had pre-warned me that if he felt bothered he would withdraw. Well there was a misstep in our communication and I was a bit reactive via text where I wondered when he was going to get back to me. And he responded saying that while he liked me he feared that my impatience and pushiness wouldn't change.
Arghhhh... I have bad past relationships with narcissist that I'm recovering from and I sometimes act out. I've been getting therapy but when I get nervous and still hurting from the past with not nice men, I experience rejection and can be reactive. I feel really bad of course that I acted that way.
After thinking about it I decided to get him a little, I'm sorry, present. I hand crafted the whole thing and it was very personalized. I wrote a little note with it saying something like this (what do you think),
Dear (name),
I hope this present finds you well. I bought this to symbolize that I really
would like to connect with you and I'd like a fresh start if that's ok? As I
did feel bad about that misstep in communicating with you via text. You
explained that if things bothered you, you might withdraw and I totally
understand that. But I am asking if you'll consider opening up again to
another conversation and to connect. I most certainly didn’t want you to
have a poor impression of me.
Whatever you decide, I do wish you much success in your research.
I meant it when I said, I find what you’re doing inspiring.
I hope these gifts give you a little inspiration and encouragement right
now, with all the pressure in your life. Maybe these presents could be a nice conversation starter.
Sincerely and w/ Kindness,
-Me