Hey all, so some of you may have saw my other post from a few weeks back. The TLDR is that my Aspie ex gf broke up with me and I was looking for answers and my options to try and get her back. A confusing breakup and I need help
Well I decided to send her a letter, it has been almost two months since we last talked so I figured it was about time. I tried to explain my faults, where I messed up by not recognizing and giving her the space she needed, how she shouldn't have to change herself for anyone etc. Just trying to be very understanding and apologizing for my part in the breakup. Then leaving things open if she ever wanted to talk in the future.
After sending the letter and doing some more research, I read up on Autistic burnout and honestly im 99% confident thats exactly what happened. All the signs of what happened, from her saying things like 'I feel so lucky' 'You make me so happy' 'I want this to last long term', 'I hope this is the first of many' etc to then needing space almost instantly. I gave her space but definitely not enough of it after reading up on how burnout works for Aspie's.
Im presuming she then got the letter after my research. I was hoping for a response but said I understood if I didn't get one and if she needed more time.
She then without any warning, removed me on all the social media's and deleted our old texts together which hurt quite bad. I was just trying my best to show her I understand, get a bit of closure and leave things on a positive note with a view to the future if she ever wanted to talk. Instead I just feel like bridges have been burned
So im going to leave her alone, im not going to reach out again. I got what I wanted to say out there, but my heart hurts so bad now. I feel like I lost a friend and a relationship. It hurts even more so that she just broke off our contact options without warning or at least a 'heres why'
So I guess im looking for your experiences with burnout, and if you think there is a chance she ever reaches out down the line.
Well I decided to send her a letter, it has been almost two months since we last talked so I figured it was about time. I tried to explain my faults, where I messed up by not recognizing and giving her the space she needed, how she shouldn't have to change herself for anyone etc. Just trying to be very understanding and apologizing for my part in the breakup. Then leaving things open if she ever wanted to talk in the future.
After sending the letter and doing some more research, I read up on Autistic burnout and honestly im 99% confident thats exactly what happened. All the signs of what happened, from her saying things like 'I feel so lucky' 'You make me so happy' 'I want this to last long term', 'I hope this is the first of many' etc to then needing space almost instantly. I gave her space but definitely not enough of it after reading up on how burnout works for Aspie's.
Im presuming she then got the letter after my research. I was hoping for a response but said I understood if I didn't get one and if she needed more time.
She then without any warning, removed me on all the social media's and deleted our old texts together which hurt quite bad. I was just trying my best to show her I understand, get a bit of closure and leave things on a positive note with a view to the future if she ever wanted to talk. Instead I just feel like bridges have been burned
So im going to leave her alone, im not going to reach out again. I got what I wanted to say out there, but my heart hurts so bad now. I feel like I lost a friend and a relationship. It hurts even more so that she just broke off our contact options without warning or at least a 'heres why'
So I guess im looking for your experiences with burnout, and if you think there is a chance she ever reaches out down the line.