Not yet, but working on it
Exactly. Also, they may asume the presence of an ememe, it never occurs to them that there might not be one, and that's because all people use ememes, for sympathy, to achieve an agenda or to manipulate. So they misread us, they assume intent or hidden agenda when it's not there, and then accuse us of lack of empathy - but we are not aware of the ememe that we may be inadvertently transmitting or lacking, so when the person reacts to the supposed ememe or lack of it, it is very confusing or us.