I am an 18 year old teenager boy with aspergers and for the longest time I had issues taking showers in high school especially with other students mainly because I hate nudity and I don't want to be seen naked.
Eventually the teachers started becoming suspicious so they sent this teacher that was probably in his mid 40s to make sure that I did shower.
When I did not shower he eventually started shouting at me and at one point I even briefly saw him naked which scared me badly.
And from that point whenever he was there whenever I heard his voice especially when he started shouting mainly when I was on the toilet playing pinball games on my mobile for too long I was really scared of him so I just ran away fearing he was gonna follow me.
The worst part was that I was stuttering as I spoke and my heart was beating extremely fast because of fear and that he never took my fear seriously and his only reaction was to say "stop joking around"
A while ago I did the same which was running away in fear to my classroom and he did what I feared that he was gonna do because he followed me to my classroom and afterwards he took me to the principal who also happens to be one of my teachers.
That was when what felt like hell started because already in the classroom I was crying my eyes out in fear and yelling and I did the same at the meeting with the principal.
The worst part is that the guy would just refute everything I said about my fears of him again saying "stop joking around" which felt even more insulting because the female principal did nothing at all in terms of criticing him and his words.
They did talk about solutions to my problems but only once the guy left the room did I ever agree on a solution.
I stopped listening to him when all he did was critise me and rant about how I was causing problems for the other students by using the toilet for too long and not showering.
Is it normal for things to play out like this where the teachers have seemingly have no regards for the distress of students?
I also forgot to mention I go at a high school for people with a diagnosis like aspergers and that I am also easily scared by sudden loud noises and people that I find threatening especially some older more intimidating people.
To end it on a happy note I did agree on a solution and it has worked since then but I still hate his guts for what he said and how he acted and his stubborn refusal to accept that he did anything wrong instead preferring to refute it back at me.
Was he being rude and insensitive or was I wrong?
Eventually the teachers started becoming suspicious so they sent this teacher that was probably in his mid 40s to make sure that I did shower.
When I did not shower he eventually started shouting at me and at one point I even briefly saw him naked which scared me badly.
And from that point whenever he was there whenever I heard his voice especially when he started shouting mainly when I was on the toilet playing pinball games on my mobile for too long I was really scared of him so I just ran away fearing he was gonna follow me.
The worst part was that I was stuttering as I spoke and my heart was beating extremely fast because of fear and that he never took my fear seriously and his only reaction was to say "stop joking around"
A while ago I did the same which was running away in fear to my classroom and he did what I feared that he was gonna do because he followed me to my classroom and afterwards he took me to the principal who also happens to be one of my teachers.
That was when what felt like hell started because already in the classroom I was crying my eyes out in fear and yelling and I did the same at the meeting with the principal.
The worst part is that the guy would just refute everything I said about my fears of him again saying "stop joking around" which felt even more insulting because the female principal did nothing at all in terms of criticing him and his words.
They did talk about solutions to my problems but only once the guy left the room did I ever agree on a solution.
I stopped listening to him when all he did was critise me and rant about how I was causing problems for the other students by using the toilet for too long and not showering.
Is it normal for things to play out like this where the teachers have seemingly have no regards for the distress of students?
I also forgot to mention I go at a high school for people with a diagnosis like aspergers and that I am also easily scared by sudden loud noises and people that I find threatening especially some older more intimidating people.
To end it on a happy note I did agree on a solution and it has worked since then but I still hate his guts for what he said and how he acted and his stubborn refusal to accept that he did anything wrong instead preferring to refute it back at me.
Was he being rude and insensitive or was I wrong?