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Featured Why ask a complete stranger how they're doing? Just me?

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Autistic Yoda, Nov 11, 2020.

  1. Crossbreed

    Crossbreed Neur-D Missionary ☝

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    Even though s/he said "kind of you to ask," s/he meant "it was kind that you cared enough to follow the story."
    1. Many colloquial phrases leave out key words, because they are assumed.
    2. Most people learned about his/her "kid's" thesis through (I assume) small talk. They weren't expected to retain that information over the long-term. It was a pleasant surprise that you did. (That is what s/he considered to be "kind.")
     
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  2. Au Naturel

    Au Naturel Au Naturel

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    Where I lived in LA for a while, the common pleasantry among men was, "How's it hangin'?" Not meant literally.
     
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  3. Crossbreed

    Crossbreed Neur-D Missionary ☝

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    That was a joke in Liar, Liar (1997).

     
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  4. Joshua Aaron

    Joshua Aaron ️Autistic Pansexual ️, Chaotic Good V.I.P Member

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    And in South Carolina, along with other Southern states, it's "Hello, y'all." Or "Hello, all y'all" if there is a lot of y'all.
     
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    Soleil Well-Known Member

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    I have never understood this phrase. Like, I understand what it means, but why does it mean "what is going on?"?

    Saying "something is up" means "something is happening", so asking "what's up?" means "what's happening?" So where does "hanging" come into play? How does one respond to this? "Oh, it's hanging well!" is not a thing anyone has ever said...
     
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    I don't mind the rhetorical social ritual aspect of "how are you" "fine" type exchanges though I'm no good at initiating them and have to remind myself to mirror them back when people use them on me. What I object to is people refusing to accept "fine" as a reply and insisting on getting a deeper reply. I once had someone do that and I couldn't think of anything to say back other than an honest "I don't know" which the person tried to pressure their way past and then assumed I was trying to say I was doing badly when really I was pissed at their trying to pry for some kind of profound answer to a question I didn't know the answer to.
     
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  8. Autistic Yoda

    Autistic Yoda Do. Or do not. There is no 'try'. V.I.P Member

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    @tree, that's a cool cartoon. People openly speaking their negative thoughts in such a manner wouldn't be ideal either. But there must be a middle ground between wearing such negativity on one's sleeve (too honest), and pretending to care about a stranger's day (too insincere).