What makes you bolt (or want to bolt)?

[janie]

garnetflower13

the likelihood that your new insights will lead you to areas, people and places that allow you to thrive is high and set by your expectation to create this for yourself as well as fueled by your passion to serve others and share the coping techniques that you have used to succeed in such a critical, demanding and stressful workplace-

go do that-
it will make differences in the
lives of others
and feed you
well

 

[SteveH]

garnetflower13

the likelihood that your new insights will lead you to areas, people and places that allow you to thrive is high and set by your expectation to create this for yourself as well as fueled by your passion to serve others and share the coping techniques that you have used to succeed in such a critical, demanding and stressful workplace-

go do that-
it will make differences in the
lives of others
and feed you
well

Thanks, I appreciate that a lot.

 

[amusicalheart]

I have this happen a lot. Just today I wanted to buy lunch so I stopped in a little restaurant someone had recommended and since it was around noon there was very little seating left and the place was small and crowded and the tables were really close together. It was very uncomfortable for me and I knew I'd be miserable if I stayed. The waiter had given me a menu, but I used my better judgement and just left. I'm so glad I did.

 

[SteveH]

Bolting, or the urge to bolt, seems to be pretty common for Auties in general. I'm not sure of the "official" definition, but I mean the urge to get away from a social situation or public place as fast as possible, to go somewhere safer (usually quieter, calmer, more familiar, more alone).

I experience this most often when I'm socialising in a group (which I hate). There are various triggers, e.g.:

• I keep trying to say something, but nobody hears me, or (worse) they do hear me but completely ignore me
• I stutter or say something that gives away the fact that I'm not "one of them", and everyone looks at me
  
• somebody says something which seems to be very obviously wrong and/or evil, but the rest of the group either agrees with it or says nothing
• the group stops communicating in any real sense, and starts the dreaded "banter" - this happens more often with men, but some women do it too. This seems to consist of sarcastic comments tossed back and forth in a kind of competition - as a way to avoid talking about anything meaningful, because meaningful communication might expose people as being different from the accepted norm, which would make them vulnerable.

So - what about you? Does this happen to you?

CLOSE TALKERS! OMG Get me out of there!!!! For me it is even worse because I am 5ft 2inch and 114lbs. I immediately jump back and things go down-hill real fast. I have to think of a strategy on how to deal with this better(my internal response as well as my external/social response).

 

[JellyBean]

When someone close is in a angry or sad mood, also in gym and around multiple old people: P

 

[Bolletje]

Unexpected visitors in my home send me running for the hills (or more accurately, for my bedroom, where I'll barricade myself)

 

[Josh B]

My body tells me when it's time to get out. I start to get tunnel vision and its starts to feel like I am wading through mud. It can be anything, I will get caught up by it even when Im at home (so the triggers aren't always people for me).

I know from my history that things can escalate to me actually fainting so I try to get out of there before that happens. Unfortunately that flight response also intensifies my heartbeat and symptoms, making it that much more likely I result in a faint. My medication cocktail defiantly increase my threshold where I don't get the "bolt response", and it's also helping me to adjust to more things < where I am needing to take them less and less>.

When Im at home I;ve learned to sit or lay down as soon as I can until the feeling subsides to avoid personal injury.. I've cracked my head a few times, and pee'd my pants once which was absolutely the worst...

Don't let yourself pass out folks just plop down on the ground if you have to