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I'm still learning the hard way that I shouldn't always try to be nice. For example, my sister has a friend who lives in Liverpool who has come down this weekend with her girlfriend. They haven't really made much of an effort to see my sister, and today she has gone with them to a cat cafe (their idea, my sister was less than enthusiastic) and then she had thought they were all going back to hers for a takeaway and board games. It turns out that the couple had changed plans without telling her and were going for a meal (without sister). So I can see she's basically been ditched, invite her to ours for the evening which she is up for. Then they decide they will look at some shops before the meal, and ask her and she then essentially blows me off. I get that she wants to actually spend some time with them, but they already blew her off for other plans but then she does the same as soon as she has a better offer.
Having said that, I am used to being dropped for better plans by both my sister and many supposed friends over my life, so I shouldn't be so surprised. You'd think I would have learned by now
Cast your bread upon the waters and it will come back soggy.What you do comes back to you. Like ripples in a pond bouncing off the shore and back. God, karma or whatever, brace yourself before you choose to drop that rock.
On that ^ endlessly troublesome fact of life: I'll probably never count it as a lesson learned because I've given up trying to know what's really being said with their words.People don't always mean what they say, and the purpose of their communication might not have anything to do with the meaning of the words they are using, but with their own agendas and goals instead.