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Very confused on this certain phrase people have used

I think the response of "so does everybody else" is an example of "smalltalk". A response is needed, but the topic doesn't require any serious consideration. Nobody is making fun of you. It's hard to sustain a conversation when someone expresses a preference. You can have any preference you like, but there's little to say when the topic is a dead end. I've used filler phrases on occasion. The best response would be a question of some kind that asks for an explanation. If the original comment doesn't interest the listener, they don't request additional information.
 
SusanLR said:
I hear phrases or use of certain words that I don't get sometimes too.
One I have been hearing a lot lately on TV and commercials is Transparency.
All of a sudden that word is everywhere. "Transparency and trust. That's our way."
I don't get it. Sounds like they are talking about clear glass to me! o_O
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Whenever someone- anyone is discussing "transparency", I tend to default to a notion that it involves a lack of it. Not an abundance of it. It being those operating openly and honestly.

Kind of like "Caller ID". To me it doesn't show who is calling, but rather who isn't calling. :mad:

Yeah, understanding things the first time around can be a real challenge at times. :eek:
 
People are always complaining about the weather where I live. I don't think anyone likes it when it's too hot or too cold or too wet or windy, but they won't stop complaining. So why is it any different when you say you don't like your job or want a raise?
And of course. people are always mentioning the weather to make small talk, which I find very annoying. It'll be cold out, and they'll say "It's cold.", and I just want to say to them with a savage amount of sarcasm, "Yeah Einstein, it is." or "Oh, is it really?! I hadn't noticed!" But that would make me appear rude and nasty.:rolleyes:
 
Progster said:
I dislike phrases like this, because it is making light or invalidating my feelings over an issue. What does it matter whether everyone else also doesn't like it?
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Agreed.

Having said that, I have said these things before. :D I've done it to my children when they're whining and I just want to get the work done because when they start whining, they stop working.

BraidedPony said:
I agree Tony. How about soul-mate!? What is that? A soul is so individual so a mate to that, like socks? Lol
Give me a break.
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I think the whole "emotional connection" that NTs talk about is completely made up and in their heads. It's an imaginary thing. For instance, someone I know talks about her emotional connection with her husband. Then he did something that had a very negative impact on their marriage, and he had been doing that thing for more than a year. After she found out, she said their emotional connection was gone. But he was doing the thing for a year, and during that year, she still felt like they had an emotional connection. If doing the thing broke the connection, then how did it still exist while he was doing the thing and she was ignorant of this fact but disappeared once she knew?

I don't know if that made sense without details, which are not mine to give, even anonymously. :-) But the point remains--just because your emotions tell you that you have a connection with someone, that does not mean that you actually do. It just means that you have an emotion. If we're lucky, we have an emotional agreement with someone. But talk of soul mates and emotional connections sound all mystical, and empirical evidence (e.g., divorce rates) says that these emotions do not mean what they think they mean.
 
Or when parents say when your depressed and lonely "There is someone out there for everyone". I now say "yea right".
 
Peter Morrison said:
I think the response of "so does everybody else" is an example of "smalltalk". A response is needed, but the topic doesn't require any serious consideration. Nobody is making fun of you. It's hard to sustain a conversation when someone expresses a preference. You can have any preference you like, but there's little to say when the topic is a dead end. I've used filler phrases on occasion. The best response would be a question of some kind that asks for an explanation. If the original comment doesn't interest the listener, they don't request additional information.
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I think this. I don't think they are being rude. I think it's their way of acknowledging you when they don't really know what else to say. I think it would be rude if they said mean words, or just ignored you all the time.
 
Definitely depends on the context. When I'm around someone who doubts my autism and I make a statement, they often will correlate it with the 'so does everyone else'.
And then there are the times, as said here already, that people are basically saying, "duh, what else is new" thing.
And then there could possibly be the case that someone is just cutting you off so you can't further state a point. :)
 
Pats said:
Definitely depends on the context. When I'm around someone who doubts my autism and I make a statement, they often will correlate it with the 'so does everyone else'.
And then there are the times, as said here already, that people are basically saying, "duh, what else is new" thing.
And then there could possibly be the case that someone is just cutting you off so you can't further state a point. :)
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Yeah. I hate being cut off.
 
Fino said:
You mean you only gave me the first half of the sentence?? :eek:

When fear strikes muster the bluster to make custard 'till you're flustered.
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A watched clock never boils,as they say.

I'm glad you're stepping up and I can now pass on the sacred duty of adage creation to the next generation.

If something is worth doing well,it's worth doing badly.
 
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