Berianireth
Well-Known Member
I've spent the past couple of months trying my hand at internet dating. I was in a serious relationship with someone I met online for about four years and almost ended up marrying him and leaving college to have a family with him, but he ended things (imo abruptly, but overdue...) with me years ago. I've been asked out by perfect strangers and near perfect strangers since then, but it's always someone unwelcome for lack of a better way of putting things! I decided I had to at least try making more friends online and seeing where things go, since apparently I miss all of my real-world cues to flirt and get chatty (?). I've been fairly successful at arranging coffee "dates" considering how reluctant I am to meet strangers from off the web. Many of them have made some memorable one-coffee stands (like the pig-farmer/hunter/militia man that met with me and refused to try the vegan cookie I offered him, and the amish person that thought that my restricted interests and coffee lust were immoral).
Ahm. Anyyway, there were a handful of people that seemed cool and down-to-earth and made me feel at ease. I've met with all of them now more than once, and I'm only sure that one of them is interested in me physically, and the other two I cannot really figure out. I'm perfectly fine with just being friends, but now I'm concerned that I'm inadvertently hurting and misleading people...because if I'm dating two or three people at once, then I'm kind of a skeezeball right? I haven't attempted to make anything serious with any of them, but I frequently give "affirmative" cues, if that makes any sense. I'm just aiming for friendly though, and then seeing what develops. Any advice on how I could nip the issue I see unfolding in the bud?
Ahm. Anyyway, there were a handful of people that seemed cool and down-to-earth and made me feel at ease. I've met with all of them now more than once, and I'm only sure that one of them is interested in me physically, and the other two I cannot really figure out. I'm perfectly fine with just being friends, but now I'm concerned that I'm inadvertently hurting and misleading people...because if I'm dating two or three people at once, then I'm kind of a skeezeball right? I haven't attempted to make anything serious with any of them, but I frequently give "affirmative" cues, if that makes any sense. I'm just aiming for friendly though, and then seeing what develops. Any advice on how I could nip the issue I see unfolding in the bud?