My son was recently diagnosed with ASD (high functioning), but there are some things that don't seem consistent with ASD according to my understanding and experience. For example, one thing I've noticed is that he is actually not at all shy around strangers. He'll go up to greet random people or strike up a conversation (about some topic of interest to him, e.g. some highly desired snack item he's getting when we go shopping) with absolutely no problem with eye contact and such. The issue is that he is actually so friendly and familiar at times that people can be a little taken aback. Is this typical/atypical for ASD? Another thing. He often ignores us when we call his name, and when I ask him if he heard me calling his name he says, "yes, I heard you, but I didn't want to do that (some requested task) so I didn't say anything." On the other hand, if I call his name and add a threat, e.g. "James, you need to pick up your toys otherwise no video tonight" he responds immediately. If I don't add that threat I could ask him 10 times and he'd just carry on doing what he's doing. Is this typical ASD behavior? It is really the oppositional/defiant behavior, the tantrums and the tendency to blame others and hold onto grudges that are the biggest issues of concern for us, so ODD is something that we keep wondering about.