IntoTheVoid
Well-Known Member
I am an introvert. When I was teenager, I had a social phobia - totally unable to speak with strangers at all. I couldn't even buy a ticket for a train.
Later I overcame it. Finally I could ask for a direction. I could buy some food in the street. And so on... Not sure how exactly I overcame it, but in the same time I am still an introvert.
And there are certain situations I am totally unable to say a single thing...
Recently I was in the mall and suddenly some woman asked me if I am a regular customer there and she had a great offer me for... It was some great super card and I can have some discounts with it. I knew it was just an common credit card and I was no interested, but I couldn't refuse her and eventually she made me to sign the contract.
Fortunately I cancelled the contract later with sending a letter to the company.
Why was I unable to tell her "not interested, bye" ?
And today I met a homeless guy. And he was like "Please, kind sir, might I ask for some money." and I was like "Ok, I'll give him some and he goes away" and I did.
But it didn't make him leave. It did the exact opposite. He suddenly wanted more and more.
"Could you gimme some more? I have four children! And I have no money for food! If you want, you can go with me to the mall, so you will see I'll buy with your money some food and not an alcohol!" and I was just like "Yeah? Eh? Okay?" totally unable to do anything, to say anything... I was totally frozen. And he continued "I don't have any money for my rent. Could you pay for my rent? You're a good a person! God bless you! Will ya'?"
It took forever and my body was shaking. I was totally unable to say a word. I totally didn't know what to say that would make him to go away finally. I gave him some money twice, but he was repeating how he needs more.
I don't mind the money, but I hate the feeling how unable to speak I am. How I lack a control in such situations.
How do you deal with such an issue? How do you respond to the homeless people?
Later I overcame it. Finally I could ask for a direction. I could buy some food in the street. And so on... Not sure how exactly I overcame it, but in the same time I am still an introvert.
And there are certain situations I am totally unable to say a single thing...
Recently I was in the mall and suddenly some woman asked me if I am a regular customer there and she had a great offer me for... It was some great super card and I can have some discounts with it. I knew it was just an common credit card and I was no interested, but I couldn't refuse her and eventually she made me to sign the contract.
Fortunately I cancelled the contract later with sending a letter to the company.
Why was I unable to tell her "not interested, bye" ?
And today I met a homeless guy. And he was like "Please, kind sir, might I ask for some money." and I was like "Ok, I'll give him some and he goes away" and I did.
But it didn't make him leave. It did the exact opposite. He suddenly wanted more and more.
"Could you gimme some more? I have four children! And I have no money for food! If you want, you can go with me to the mall, so you will see I'll buy with your money some food and not an alcohol!" and I was just like "Yeah? Eh? Okay?" totally unable to do anything, to say anything... I was totally frozen. And he continued "I don't have any money for my rent. Could you pay for my rent? You're a good a person! God bless you! Will ya'?"
It took forever and my body was shaking. I was totally unable to say a word. I totally didn't know what to say that would make him to go away finally. I gave him some money twice, but he was repeating how he needs more.
I don't mind the money, but I hate the feeling how unable to speak I am. How I lack a control in such situations.
How do you deal with such an issue? How do you respond to the homeless people?