It all depends on a person. You may say you're lacking something or have problem with something when a certain trait doesn't let you achieve what you want from life. Some people (whoever they are) may be perfectly content with who they are and some are always trying to improve themselves. Being on the spectrum is being different, the reason it is considered as a disorder is because some of the traits may prevent a person to lead independent life and be a valuable part of a community (which is an ultimate goal of a human being in our society). Value of a human being evolves and maybe eventually, because of that and because we will learn to communicate on various levels, Autism will stop being a disorder. Here's my personal experience. I knew I was different since I was 2 years old, by age of 9 I realized it was something in my brain that made me that way. Here a few things I wished I understood better and needed help with: I didn't understand how to communicate with people of deeper level, I had very vague idea about making friends and engaging other people; I felt trapped in my own mind, I knew I understood many things on higher level but I couldn't use my talents and intelligence the way I wished; my sensory issues distracted me from things I wanted to do very frequently. I wanted to write, draw and read more but I would become to overwhelmed. I wanted to engage more people into my games and projects, but I couldn't read their emotional needs very well and never knew what to say. Whether you are on the spectrum or not, it all depends on what you want from life and where you are willing to compromise. If you want something but your traits are interfering, then maybe you want to figure out, how to work with them without completely denying their existence. I am hypersensitive and it's hard to deal with sometimes, but I also think it's a gift because my vision of myself and the world around me is much shaper and more vivid. I may struggle with socializing but it gave me opportunity to see people from different perspective, it inspired me to learn more about human behavior; plus the way I am also helped me not to be controlled by emotions that much. Nobody's way is better or worse, it's all depends on how you look at it and who you want to be.