Too stupid to learn anything. Proofed it this past weeks.

[Dagan]

I'm willing to bet that you just have to find your own steps to what clicks for you. I'm also willing to bet that because it's a sore subject that no one helped you feel better about, you get irritated and overwhelmed really quick and rather lash out in ways. Understood completely.

I don't mind sharing my flaws and such, so here's a major one: still to this day, after writing songs, playing them on stage, recording them, etc. I can't read music traditionally (sheet music). I can't stand even trying to because it just doesn't click for me. I may as well be trying to talk to dolphins. But...if you take music and break it down in the form of what's basically simplified math on a very simple grid, called "tablature" ...I'm instantly able to understand it. It's probably just the craziness that someone thought letters would go well with numbers. Not me. Get all of those letters out of here. What, am I a Roman or something? Haha. I found another way, it works for me and I've stuck to it.

Tony, you can find a way. The only thing that can prevent you from finding what works for you... is if you give up trying...so, keep at it. Also, only when you quit or give up trying is when someone else wins and can say that they were right, that you can't do something. Don't give anyone the option of winning. Keep grinding.

 

[Mary Terry]

Teachers who tutored me would praise me when I pass but put me down when I failed. My relatives would do the same. I never had a study group or a friend tutor me get the point, so I was called retarded and stupid, so I got used to it to get the point.

Now my nice friend I met in the park 2 weeks ago was so kind of me she is so kind of me so she actually wants to tutor me in math personally and send her problems gives me confidence and believe in me actually believes in mesays that she can actually help me I never had anyone personally wanted to tutor me in this stuff I just can't believe it I can do it I get a frustrated I never had actually anyone that can actually think they can help me I had tutors that would put me down and say oh you did good in this test, but you failed this one you're useless you stupid you had to get the point.

Maybe you're over-reacting to negative comments when you fail a test. It may be a part of your rejection sensitivity syndrome. Talk to your therapist about it!

 

[Judge]

Maybe you're over-reacting to negative comments when you fail a test. It may be a part of your rejection sensitivity syndrome. Talk to your therapist about it!

Excellent point worth pursuing.

I'll go with one step further and speculate as to whether or not those with rejection sensitivity might be prone to preemptively failing most any test given their anger, frustration and lack of self-esteem.

That it could be a great opportunity to ask a medical professional about the possibility of this happening. Better known as being a "self-fulfilled prophecy". When one becomes their own worst enemy without even knowing it.

Another thing to work on, but with the chance of another thing to overcome.

 

[Steelbookcollector217]

yeah i hope Tony is still going to therapy, i hope he continues to do so

 

[paloftoon]

Learning how to clean doesn't require much math.
Volunteering at many places doesn't require much math.
Consider those things.

Learn things when you can.
There are more visual ways to learn multiplication and division that are based more closely on addition and subtraction. They take up more space, but are easier to do and understand.
If you struggle with addition and subtraction, ask your tutor(s) to try to come up with things to learn visually such as using blocks or cutting up pieces of paper so that you can "feel" why certain equations work.

Also, doing something like reciting:
1+1 = 2
. .
1+7 = 8
1+ 8 = 9

and each time as you recite, you add one more block or piece of paper to what you're holding so that you see and feel what the equation is equal to and you aren't just trying to solely memorize a math fact.