I have an intense dislike / hate of too many choices. This primarily relates to things but can bleed over into other stuff like vacation destinations, career path etc.
Having too many choices is overwhelming. Obviously when I need to buy something I want the "best" thing for my needs and budget. When deciding what "best" means my natural inclination is to gather information so that a comparison can be made. That sounds simple but when faced with a dozen items of a simiilar nature, I can spend hours reading labels. That makes a weeks worth of food shopping untenable and buying something like shampoo very difficult, while buying clothes can seem impossible.
If I have to buy groceries I can usually handle the lights and noise and some crowds but too many choices can lead to meltdown.
I have solved this problem by simply buying the same things over and over. I buy the same toiletries too.
I have a simple menu of diiners that I cook and always buy the foods to make those dinners. We generally eat the same breakfast every day and have for years. My husbsnd is o.k. with this for the most part. He tells me he will eat anything, and what I make tastes good so there is no problem. One time we did have some trouble in the kitchen though. He asked me to make a dish that his mother used to make. But I was cueless about this dish. I had never eaten it, seen or or even heard of it and my husbsnd did not have a recipe. That scenario is very upsetting as it means I fail right from the start. Eventually he understood my dilema and helped me to figure the dish out.
Anyway this aversion to choices concerns my clothes too. I wear loose fitting cotton tshirts or soft cotton button up shirts and loose fitting cotton shorts or pants and knit skirts No tags of course. Never, ever, ever any "stretch" fabrics or tight, form fitting clothes. I have one dress for nicer wear and it is a closer fit but I can manage since Ill only wear it for a couple of hours at a time. I will not ever, ever, try on clothes in a store. I can usually tell how a garnment will fit by looking at how it is cut.
I hate clothing shopping more than just about anything so I wear my clothes until they are pretty ragged. In have about 12 shirts and 2 pants, 3 shorts, 2 skirts, one dress.
Along with this dislike of choices, I dislike clutter. Especially clutter without a purpose. I was reading that aspie women often have collections related to their soecial interests. The examples given were things like Harry Potter memorabilia or photographs and magazines about their favorite star. I can not relate to this.
I do get intensely interested in a subject but my subjects are all about learning to do something. I am not even good at what I learn to do. For those interests I will buy a lot of equipment, materials and tools but once that subject has run out of steam, I sell or give my stuff away. No regrets.
I appologise for my rambling. I am just wondering if any of this is relatable.
Having too many choices is overwhelming. Obviously when I need to buy something I want the "best" thing for my needs and budget. When deciding what "best" means my natural inclination is to gather information so that a comparison can be made. That sounds simple but when faced with a dozen items of a simiilar nature, I can spend hours reading labels. That makes a weeks worth of food shopping untenable and buying something like shampoo very difficult, while buying clothes can seem impossible.
If I have to buy groceries I can usually handle the lights and noise and some crowds but too many choices can lead to meltdown.
I have solved this problem by simply buying the same things over and over. I buy the same toiletries too.
I have a simple menu of diiners that I cook and always buy the foods to make those dinners. We generally eat the same breakfast every day and have for years. My husbsnd is o.k. with this for the most part. He tells me he will eat anything, and what I make tastes good so there is no problem. One time we did have some trouble in the kitchen though. He asked me to make a dish that his mother used to make. But I was cueless about this dish. I had never eaten it, seen or or even heard of it and my husbsnd did not have a recipe. That scenario is very upsetting as it means I fail right from the start. Eventually he understood my dilema and helped me to figure the dish out.
Anyway this aversion to choices concerns my clothes too. I wear loose fitting cotton tshirts or soft cotton button up shirts and loose fitting cotton shorts or pants and knit skirts No tags of course. Never, ever, ever any "stretch" fabrics or tight, form fitting clothes. I have one dress for nicer wear and it is a closer fit but I can manage since Ill only wear it for a couple of hours at a time. I will not ever, ever, try on clothes in a store. I can usually tell how a garnment will fit by looking at how it is cut.
I hate clothing shopping more than just about anything so I wear my clothes until they are pretty ragged. In have about 12 shirts and 2 pants, 3 shorts, 2 skirts, one dress.
Along with this dislike of choices, I dislike clutter. Especially clutter without a purpose. I was reading that aspie women often have collections related to their soecial interests. The examples given were things like Harry Potter memorabilia or photographs and magazines about their favorite star. I can not relate to this.
I do get intensely interested in a subject but my subjects are all about learning to do something. I am not even good at what I learn to do. For those interests I will buy a lot of equipment, materials and tools but once that subject has run out of steam, I sell or give my stuff away. No regrets.
I appologise for my rambling. I am just wondering if any of this is relatable.