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To dumb to steal

Kayla55

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Never made it as a wise man
I couldn't cut it as a poor man stealing
Tired of livin' like a blind man
I'm sick of sight without a sense of feeling
And this is how you remind me

Well, this song was on radio, long time ago. Memory just cropped up. Memory of thinking if I could try sales I could earn a better salary. Have you ever felt too dumb to steal, idiot for not lying and that advantage was just against you in all odds.
I'm even worse in that I clean my house, tired I washed kitchen cupboards. I don't use slaves or workers, and do twice as much work.
Asked my son to let algebra go, kindly explained business management with maths theory. He isn't keen to give up his idea of being scientist, or hear another one of my rants about earning difference between CEO and ironically I say the idiot scientist.
 
We're not supposed to steal and lie. Stealing and lying are both wrong. Stealing is actually illegal and in some circumstances, so is lying.
 
The stories about prisons and being given a tour of a local jail have been enough to show me that I don’t want to end up in them.
 
I meant in way of surviving the business world, not theft but rather how to legally commit white collar exploiting of others, how to lie or not tell truth to deliberately get ahead in life. In other words the life skills of the NT

This video is brutal, honestly I've got this mindset to adapt and not die, I nearly went down the drain, had no one to depend on.

 

I've got this synical ability over years to cut through society, dogma and lies. So I've met Russians who have degrees and work for same salary as everyone...yet since it's called communism and not capitalism it's not discipline!!
Ye, well if Chinese janitor packed up and had to clean up after yourself then adapting Montessori system in class of tidy up and pack away, makes lot of sense!!!

Really laugh at surviving a Kayla challenge because some people are just up so clueless,
Learnt brilliant German meme it states: a new broom sweeps very clean and therefore knowing this we avoid working too hard by exploiting others and then refering to the past to deny any wrong doing.

Need to stop being synical and devising idiotic riddles when I'm in a bad mood.
 
Dishonesty is wrong.
I know and totally agree, but realising system is wrong, doesn't help. Only to find years later my children are going without what others have because I'm such idiot, I didnt adapt sooner to give em the best life they deserve.
Is it a crime to as parent not know how to explain to most possible school option that my son has what kind of disability, needs inclusion to get his distinction grades to become his dream job of being an underpaid scientit (or whatever)
Prior to that was before I was able to pay for Montessori who asked us to leave, prior to that we in boat of me not having funds and after being on waiting list due to school crisis, stumbled like further idiot on miracle that happened and failed.
So if you don't have kids, you don't understand
 
I Have two kids raised both, do not kill your sons dream I had the same dream wanted to become a particle physicist since public school dream sort of died when gift for math not their my gift was ability to visualize not math proofs. so
took chemistry in college became a chemical engineering technologist. First job after graduation was on a coil coating line making 7K per year. sure the money was not great A foreman told me one day Ron look around they paint every thing. Become an expert and you always be employed Told me about a local college program that offered courses for paint company, Through Toronto society for coating technology, I took the courses even through I worked in the application of coating's not manufacturing. most of my fellow students worked for paint manufacturing plants. This gave me a real edge working for applicators over the years their suppliers could not B.S. me as knew their process and manufacturing methods. I became expert not just on the. paint, also the substrates treatments. colour control, also really familiar with the chemistry as I was good at organic chemistry with first diploma I changed jobs a few times chasing promotions, which never happened very frustrating. Finally landed a dream position coil coating line with various substrates, treatments thousands of colours Perfect fit for my Aspergers as anal need to organize. customer could change substrate colour, treatment at will and sales could change supplier at will as I controlled the suppliers, knowing their capabilities. Retired after 21 years a superstar in coating application. I see my handywork every where. a controlled a good chunk of the colour I see around me. Either way I never chased money just recognition via promotion. Never happened over forty years. I also know a scientist. yes he makes well over six digits
he on what they call the sun shine list.
 
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Regarding dreams, knowing your aptitudes and choosing careers, being in the right place at the right time, and acting upon opportunities:

"...Memory of thinking if I could try sales I could earn a better salary. Have you ever felt too dumb to steal, idiot for not lying and that advantage was just against you in all odds.
I'm even worse in that I clean my house, tired I washed kitchen cupboards. I don't use slaves or workers, and do twice as much work.
Asked my son to let algebra go, kindly explained business management with maths theory. He isn't keen to give up his idea of being scientist, or hear another one of my rants about earning difference between CEO and ironically I say the idiot scientist..." @Kayla55


I have interactions with sales people all the time. One thing I do know, is that you honestly need to be a "people person" to personally connect with a potential customer, be really good with small talk, initiating personal conversations, and be intuitive enough to have a sense of "what buttons to push" in order get a sale. I have been approached several times by medical equipment sales people wanting me to be part of their sales team because I am very knowledgeable in my little niche. However, I am not taking a group out to lunch, I am not talking to people at a conference booth, I am not traveling and hoteling it 5 days a week, I am not going to negotiate a multi-million dollar sales, service, and parts contract with some hospital department manager or director. I know I can teach well, but I am not the guy you want actually trying to sell you anything. I cannot "read" people well and cannot charm or humor someone into a sale. I generally find people confusing and exhausting.

So, I focused more upon education and now, allowing my younger co-workers, advance up the ladder past me. In fact, one of my former students is our department director. I realize my aptitudes and what is best for me and the department, as a whole.
 
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I've got this synical ability over years to cut through society, dogma and lies. So I've met Russians who have degrees and work for same salary as everyone...yet since it's called communism and not capitalism it's not discipline!!
Ye, well if Chinese janitor packed up and had to clean up after yourself then adapting Montessori system in class of tidy up and pack away, makes lot of sense!!!

Really laugh at surviving a Kayla challenge because some people are just up so clueless,
Learnt brilliant German meme it states: a new broom sweeps very clean and therefore knowing this we avoid working too hard by exploiting others and then refering to the past to deny any wrong doing.

Need to stop being synical and devising idiotic riddles when I'm in a bad mood.
I helped a Russian woman years ago place molded plastic parts for a car that they then painted she had a masters degree in mold design, our process engineer thought she was an idiot, no respect She had told me the mold was flawed. I went up front told him he was an idiot, what do you know about Russian culture. The plant manager respected me for my insights I got her a promotion at a sister plant, along with wages commensurate with her experience and education. Yes the mold was flawed. Done stuff like this my whole career. I do like seeing people being exploited. Weird the mold even had a second flaw which I figured out It was not case hardened, on one area of the part paint would chip off. I could just visualize the reason for surface tension in this area. Even bought some surface tension test kits to prove I was right. The manager did not to spend the money to case harden the mold. So I pushed stupid job got fired week later customer forced the mold to be case hardened took severance package got much better position on coil coating line a few weeks later. I do not put up with fools, will debate anyone if your wrong. I'm the boss so I'm correct does not work on me.
 
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I've spent some time in last 2 weeks of getting him on good routine of waking up earlier, considering packing games away. Having done science I was also able to show him formulas and where he went wrong, not theory. Honestly I was so rusty but able to point out whether checked answer at the end, and just few pointers but I mean rusty in that I never used most of this and I was a programmer.
To be blunt most companies want RAD (rapid dev) so VB had its place in history, like it or not. Most systems were really automating and the more complex such accounting was where all formulas are available and mostly maintenance or adding something new from time to time.
With AI this is changing even more, where more comprehensive than excel.
Another note is of all the 'engineers' which fancy term for artisans who did learn formulas and maths specific to fields, not used. Electricians most complex job involves voltmeter. And at end of day it's really about paying bills, who loves what they do in real world? Make it worse is harder everyday, and my ex and I battled as never enough money even when working. Consider school isn't free, pls people stop saying ignorant stuff like edu is free.
Worst irony is the work that I do more is political and guarantees income more than jobs availability in changing political sphere. Example: so and so is brilliant mechanic, however due to his attitude he looses customers. And this happens a lot, perhaps complex projects one sourcing good parts or talent but with competition it's really buddy system and I learnt hard way in South Africa to adapt to other people's viewpoints in order to align with business policies.
 
I suppose I could be little less dumb and get creative with my neighbours fence but that's dishonest and stupidity like switching fence on while I'm disconnecting wires.
I could sit and consider a reverse current and whether I could blow a total fuse by accident, too. But mindful of epsculating tensions further since it's not worth it, rather try be peaceful. I've threatened with SPCA over dog bite and they apologized and offered but my tetanus is up to date, I don't like that dog but don't think it's in my nature to poison dogs even in my worst hair trigger meltdown.
But I think a healthy respect was established regarding my reverse current capabilities.
 
Asked my son to let algebra go, kindly explained business management with maths theory. He isn't keen to give up his idea of being scientist, or hear another one of my rants about earning difference between CEO and ironically I say the idiot scientist.
Not sure if this is really on subject, but it reminds me of my life.

In school, I was diagnosed as retarded with major learning disabilities. I was considered a very dumb kid with no chance of any future beyond simple labor jobs.

I was born with an obsession (Perhaps like you son wanting to be a scientist.) Regardless of any external opinions or what anyone told me I could or couldn't do, none of that had any effect on my obsession. My obsession was electronic design. I had my heart set on becoming an electronics design engineer.

In my first algebra class, I realized that algebra was totally beyond me. Made no sense at all. I took a separate tutoring class in hopes of learning it enough to "get buy". No improvement at all. I also realized that I could never pass any college course. I couldn't even pass any part of grade or high school. I did graduate, but only because the school kept bumping me up a grade even as I failed each year. These realizations dashed my hopes of my dream electronics design engineer career. I knew that that that career required a college degree. But, my obsession was not affected. I couldn't let it go. I just made it my hobby. I would dig old radios an TV's out of the trash behind repair shops, take them home, scavenge the parts out of them and studied the parts. This kept me enthralled for hours every day. I was often in trouble for "hiding away" all day playing with all this weird stuff. Eventually, I learned enough from all those parts to actually repair the TV's and radios.

I found a brand new TV in a dumpster behind a department store. I dug it out and took it home and fixed it. I took it back the store and told them what I did. They hired me on the spot to fix their failed electronics. My first actual job.

That is how I progressed all through life. I was always studying to satisfy my obsession. Every job I got was a progression on the next.

Eventually, I got a job at an actual electronics design firm assembling prototypes for the engineers to test their designs. Having autistic social skills I almost got fired for telling the engineers their design flaws before the prototypes were built. The only thing that kept me from getting fired was that the boss noticed that I was right. Building the prototype with my changes proved it. After that, the boss required all engineers to have me review their designs before prototype as that was much cheaper. There was resentment, because I had no schooling or credentials. This went on for a few years. By and by, the engineers started coming to me for questions and advice on their designs and electronics theory. It made them look better to the boss to have their designs work on the first draft. Eventually, I was promoted to senior design engineer. Still don't understand algebra as taught in school, no college, no degree, but my dream electronics design career became a reality in spite of all that. My boss said that my designs were innovative. Actually, they were just autistic.

With that, I would never discourage anyone from their dreams. I was just lucky that my autistic social disconnect made me not listen or succumb to their pressures. It should be understood there is more than one way to achieve your dreams. School, algebra, diplomas, degrees, etc., are all the standard, default way. But, is certainly not the ONLY way. No, I did not know how to achieve anything. I just never gave up. I never stopped. Took a lifetime, but eventually I just realized that, "holly krap! I'm here".
 
You know reading others struggles with ASD and getting a job break, really reminds me so much of how I battled. I suppose I want the best for him and figured money but truth is it's road to unhappiness.
Over the years I stored all my complications bottled inside, from families reactions to my dropping out to opinions of others about me, it's probably still affecting me more than I realise.

Having ASD or back in day just being dumb, I'd not realise many times people projecting was actually their inadequacies and that people dishonestly cover that up whilst pointing a finger at you, there was so much about people that took me ages to learn. It's still hard to grasp that criticism is their way to knock you down whilst trying to steal your work (same old repeating theme)
One of my last job searches in city resulted in quite few positions specifying a degree in computers and I was beginning to assume the market had finally being commercialised and done over to never really be free as it was back in the day.
My theory is pretentious educators try to have understanding of algebra and push this as standard but it's not really used on most jobs. I do admire the mathematicians and scientists who invented these, somehow don't think I'm one who's that, but I can understand, substitute and do basic calculus where needed for programming. I had some issues with my old car, the wipers didn't have intermittent switching and no maths really, but do need to know circuits and basics of electronics, my mom's still recommended guy who did some work fixing up wiring on car, he'd lost his job. I suppose this why curriculum on artisan work is specific to industry and don't need to know whole of science.

I suppose lesson learnt is nothing is really at face value, since pretenses
 
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"Too dumb", you mean. :)
I should probably change thread name to first degree stealing, meaning premeditated and calculated even if done with white collar. Then third degree is impulsive thief who didn't think properly what they doing.
Perhaps a narcisstic boss left me with view point that don't study as hard for math, don't work as hard....I always tried to adapt to idea of working smart but honestly there 2 versions to that...one is actually being smart n organised and other is ridiculous off backs of others but creating entitled fancy job title for bring skilled at managing others, in downright narcisstic way.

Serious observation is if one of us could be corrupted then we could probably do lot more damage than NT this is what I noted about fence, is I don't do these sort of things to people, but if I did it would get pretty ugly.
 

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