Hey everyone. This question is inspired by this Reddit post.https://www.reddit.com/r/ForeverAlon...p_to_be_happy/
I'm not part of that sub or anything, but it did make me curious. I mean, I've had the ''be happy with yourself'' advice from other who are in relationships as well and it can definitely be frustrating. On the other hand, I have seen with my own eyes what happens when people stay in unhappy relationships just for the sake of it(LOTS of dysfunction between my mom and my father, as well as her ex-boyfriend). So I know that you can be in a relationship and be miserable. Even my sister(who's 3 years younger) has had 2-3 boyfriends or sorts, yet two didn't end well, one of them due to my sister getting very codependent(she's had severe mental health issues)
I'm 20 and have never kissed or dated a girl(and on the spectrum, so social skills weren't the best period). That being said, I don't see my situation as hopeless. I'm actually finishing an EMT training program in a bit under a month and will be moving to a different part of my state to live on my own(escaping aforementioned toxic family) and doing regular college as well. I've done some therapy, and have better exercise and self care habits(I style my hair differently more, run, etc) and I am WAY less awkward and socially inept than I was growing up. Even still, it can be frustrating knowing that many former HS classmates already have SOs. A couple are even married/engaged now at just over two years after graduation, which may or may not be a good thing.
Anywho, I have heard the saying ''when you've had a snack, it's easier to wait on dinner'' which seems to sum up what's being expressed in that thread. I do know that we all have our own unique paths in life, but I'm also apprehensive hearing about people who are past 25 and still are single. I have other goals and things I want to do sure, and I do need time when I do get on my own to get settled in and sort things out, but I also find I don't want to be single too much longer (more than 1 1/2) year though I acknowledge that it may not be healthy to think this. For me especially having always lagged behind everyone socially, I guess I feel tired of always playing ''keep-up'' when it comes to the experiences others are having.
Thoughts?
I'm not part of that sub or anything, but it did make me curious. I mean, I've had the ''be happy with yourself'' advice from other who are in relationships as well and it can definitely be frustrating. On the other hand, I have seen with my own eyes what happens when people stay in unhappy relationships just for the sake of it(LOTS of dysfunction between my mom and my father, as well as her ex-boyfriend). So I know that you can be in a relationship and be miserable. Even my sister(who's 3 years younger) has had 2-3 boyfriends or sorts, yet two didn't end well, one of them due to my sister getting very codependent(she's had severe mental health issues)
I'm 20 and have never kissed or dated a girl(and on the spectrum, so social skills weren't the best period). That being said, I don't see my situation as hopeless. I'm actually finishing an EMT training program in a bit under a month and will be moving to a different part of my state to live on my own(escaping aforementioned toxic family) and doing regular college as well. I've done some therapy, and have better exercise and self care habits(I style my hair differently more, run, etc) and I am WAY less awkward and socially inept than I was growing up. Even still, it can be frustrating knowing that many former HS classmates already have SOs. A couple are even married/engaged now at just over two years after graduation, which may or may not be a good thing.
Anywho, I have heard the saying ''when you've had a snack, it's easier to wait on dinner'' which seems to sum up what's being expressed in that thread. I do know that we all have our own unique paths in life, but I'm also apprehensive hearing about people who are past 25 and still are single. I have other goals and things I want to do sure, and I do need time when I do get on my own to get settled in and sort things out, but I also find I don't want to be single too much longer (more than 1 1/2) year though I acknowledge that it may not be healthy to think this. For me especially having always lagged behind everyone socially, I guess I feel tired of always playing ''keep-up'' when it comes to the experiences others are having.
Thoughts?