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Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Aspergers_Aspie, Sep 7, 2019.

  1. Aspergers_Aspie

    Aspergers_Aspie Active Member

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    Are there things you don't like? I apparently look like a character who some say is a 'buffoon' I have heard some people call me that. As far as I can see with no regard to if possibly I feel uncomfortable, with the right intention and context I am okay. People who seem to try and be malicious with it frustrate me as they lie to pretend they are nice or good. I don't understand why someone would want to try and be nasty.
     
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  2. Wolf Prince

    Wolf Prince My future job title.

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    Usually its to cover up their own problems. Misery loves company.
     
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  3. Aspergers_Aspie

    Aspergers_Aspie Active Member

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    Perhaps but the majority of the time leads me to be very stressed and frustrated
     
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  4. Aspychata

    Aspychata But this is my happy face.....

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    Think people just like to give other people a difficult time. It's best to ignore trolls. Eventually they move on.
     
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  5. Aspergers_Aspie

    Aspergers_Aspie Active Member

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    Nothing I can do except to try and practise my morals or values.
     
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  6. Aspychata

    Aspychata But this is my happy face.....

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    Fino Alex V.I.P Member

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    I've been told I'm like a cartoon character, mostly because of my voice, and then people used to like to imitate my voice a lot but lately I've only been around people who don't do that so it hasn't happened in a while. Some said I look like Chicken Little, the little chicken from that movie, and some people called me that. :eek:
     
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    Bullies will be bullies. Just ignore them. They arent worth your time. And likely, it's their own self-issues that drive it, so whatever irritating thing they're doing or saying cant really be stopped without treating said issue first. In other words, no point trying to go against them. Just ignore and avoid.

    I can say with 100% confidence that this statement is false.
     
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  9. Streetwise

    Streetwise very cautious contributor

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    The idea from the world of clinical psychology is insecurity ( being nasty - another one is being unsocialised , selfish )me having the perception of a twig ( sorry twig don’t want to offend twigs )does not understand that, then there is the manipulative camp could be a narcissist ,Forget how many different mental illnesses there are.
     
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    Wolf Prince My future job title.

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    Due to my flight or fright modes being nonexistent and having a tendency towards mirroring the attitude directed at me I have to use a different approach. First I will in a joking way insult them back to see if there was any intention of malice or if it is just their way being friendly. When I was able to socialize most of my friends (Mostly rednecks) liked to give each other crap. If there is intention of malice it has been my experience, the person will in most cases exhibit signs of aggression in the form of verbal threats. How it is handled from there varies from person to person.
     
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  12. Pats

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    I think, by nature, people talk about other people. All for different reasons. I know plenty of things have been said about me or to me and I'm finally at a point that I'm no longer offended by it. (Well, maybe a little, depending on what it is). If that's what someone thinks about me, oh well. But I've also said things about someone - a few times wishing I could take it back because that's not who I want to be and it was probably said in anger. However, usually if I say something in anger, I've meant it. My sister called me out for calling her a meddling attorney, but she IS a meddling attorney and she knows it and admits it herself, so why be mad at me. But when people make fun of or call people names over their looks or some trait, it's not okay. I guess I'm saying if you did something that upsets me and I say something offensive because of it, that's one thing, but just out of being mean is, in fact, just being mean and they're the ones who deserve to be offended. :)
     
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    Streetwise very cautious contributor

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    The psychological teaching is: your sister is offended and the offence is really !!!she doesn’t think you love/like her ,I think usually stemming from the fear of death, A certain amount of people confuse love and like .
     
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    Actually, I don't :) She's been a thorn in my side my whole life. But I see what you're saying.
     
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    Streetwise very cautious contributor

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    It can make life easier if you understand human psychology
     
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    People have told me my voice is annoying or too loud. People have also told me I’m too quiet. People have told me I ask too many questions without talking about myself and people have told me I talk too much about myself. I’ve just decided to stop paying too much attention to what other people say about me.
     
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    To clarify do you love her or do you love her and not like her
     
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    Only in the same sense that I try to love everyone.
     
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    Tony Ramirez Christian with Asperger's Syndrome

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    My family says I say things I should not without thinking. I can't help it but they just don't understand. No wonder I like to be with company of life groups.
     
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  20. Aspychata

    Aspychata But this is my happy face.....

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    Thanks @Ken S Not sure l want to try your way out.