Sabrina
Gentle & brave earthling
That leaves another important question. Why are you married anyways? Do you do it for the same reason that NT do? Do you feel the need to do it because that what people in (NT)society do? Are you really doing it out of love? Think about this good and hard because I don't think that you are doing it for the same reason NT's do.
Those are very complicated questions but very important ones. I've sometimes thought that if I wasn't married to him, I wouldn't be married at all.
Sometimes I think I'm like a mix between Amy and Bernardette (Big Bang Theory) and he is like a mix between Sheldon and Wollowitz . I like that he gets me very well WHEN he gets me (which is not always). We are capable to speak "robot language", with very weird words and points of views that fascinate each other. I enjoy that a lot. He's got a wealth of knoledge in some areas and I do as well in other areas. Those areas are not the same, but are in the same universe, meaning that usually (not always) I find that is very interesting what he has to say, and viceversa.
But sometimes I feel that I need a month vacation from him . I'm sure is the same for him. We can get very emotionally intense, very fast.
In these weeks that have passed, I've asked those same questions to me. Am I married out of love or just because I have to? That's why I asked him for a separation. How can I be with someone that I don't love? He actually agreed to it, and a few days later he back pedaled and we decided for a sort of truce and go to couple's therapy.
Today, after a lot of reading in psychology issues, I came up with this concept of mixed feelings, and that has changed everything, because I love him in general,but in certain issues, I hate him. Now that I know that that's ok, I am decided to continue. For how long? No idea.
Is it the same reason why a NT gets married or stays married? No idea.