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Things about you NT's find weird or unusual

Cinco

Cinco

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What are some things you do or prefer that others (typically NT's) find unusual

For me the biggest "thing" has to be that I in fact don't listen to music, at all.
Sure I don't "hate" music but I just don't get it. If anything I find it awkward and distracting and sometimes I even cringe when I hear music. I've tried listening to all kinds of music but still haven't found anything I can bear for more than 1-2 minutes
Whenever people ask me about something music related or what music I like, and I tell them I don't listen to music they act all surprised like I just told them I commited a major crime or something.
 
I hate Sony, even though they're arguably the most popular games company in the World, too many Sony zealots IMO.

Seriously though, there are people who can't understand why my Parents only have 2 Grandchildren from my Brother, and no kids to date, or probably ever, from me.
 
My tendency to blurt out anything that's on my mind to make conversation, my creativity, and my misinterpretation of social rules.
 
Inappropriate or unexpected answers to questions. (I call them questions but usually it's a statement whereby inflection changes on the last word) - I take that as a cue a response is required.

In my mind the answer I've given makes sense.
Their reaction or following opinion would suggest it didn't
 
If I appear distracted or am too quiet when someone is talking to me - apparently that means I'm uninterested in whatever they're talking about.

In my reality I'm picking out the facts of what they're saying, arranging them to be meaningful and trying to find a possible solution to suggest they try.

I don't always get the "uh humm, yeh, really?, Aww" and head nodding with eye contact in the correct places. Timing is slightly off and noticable.
(Sometimes if you repeat a few of their emphasised words back to them, they will continue to talk)
For example,
....blah, blah, blah then the cat threw up
"The cat threw up?"
Yeh, I was really worried, the cat's never sick...blah, blah, blah
 
The question is what DONT they find weird about me? I am a walking disater
 
I usually won't introduce myself to new people, right away. I need some time to observe them and plan my approach. Sometimes too much time passes though, and it's even more awkward than if I just walked up to them and said a nerdy hello.
 
Correct me if i am in error.... I have noticed if you r straight up Autistic or disabled in a visial way, people r nicer. I belong to the chrom ab group and when a kid acts out, onlookers are rude but THEN the child got hearing aids abd all of sudden....oh, your child is disabled? I look normal except my clothes and attire. I dont have any thing to show it so peoples think i am mental
 
Squished Crab said:
I usually won't introduce myself to new people, right away. I need some time to observe them and plan my approach. Sometimes too much time passes though, and it's even more awkward than if I just walked up to them and said a nerdy hello.
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Interesting. In Think it works bith ways. When i take too long to connect yes, you r right. It gets to be too late. But if i jump in i always regret it because i fall and people think i am connected and kind but i tank into suicidal depression and confuse people
 
Squished Crab said:
I usually won't introduce myself to new people, right away. I need some time to observe them and plan my approach. Sometimes too much time passes though, and it's even more awkward than if I just walked up to them and said a nerdy hello.
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It's the partings or goodbyes I'm still unable to master.
I've observed enough of them over a life time, one would think I should know how to bring it about casually. I still find myself looking for an opportunity to slip away unnoticed.
 
Think that my eye contact is too intense, and I stare at people when they are speaking.

My ability to be extremely clear when I speak, and direct, so there are fewer misunderstandings.

My directness may appear to some to be a aggressive, or so it's been suggested. My short clipped sentences seem to make people uncomfortable.
 
I repeat myself if I'm under a lot of stress. Over and over again - many have told me to just shut up.

I also interrupt people when something brilliant comes into my head, and then bore them to tears as I try to explain why its so brilliant. (sometimes, it's not so brilliant, but that goes without saying!)

My ADD can be annoying, too, if I don't take my Ritalin during social situations. That is, I don't really listen to what anyone is saying if I'm unmedicated.

I have NO facial recognition. It's really hard when people say HI to me, and I have no idea who they are...esp. at work, this can be a serious problem w/co-workers.
 
Lack of eye contact.
Too much talk about my obsessive interests.
Not replying to the formalities NTs want.
Like those Good Mornings, How are you?, greetings with handshakes and all the other unecessary formalities.
My intense noticing/hearing things going on around me that others seem to tune out and don't really care about anyway.
If I'm in a quiet mood, they think I'm angry.
Not understanding what I'm talking about even though to me it is very simple when ask to explain something.
Gracey said:
In my mind the answer I've given makes sense.
Their reaction or following opinion would suggest it didn't
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Exactly.
And not understanding my lack of friends and never marrying or having children.
 
Gracey said:
If I appear distracted or am too quiet when someone is talking to me - apparently that means I'm uninterested in whatever they're talking about.

In my reality I'm picking out the facts of what they're saying, arranging them to be meaningful and trying to find a possible solution to suggest they try.

I don't always get the "uh humm, yeh, really?, Aww" and head nodding with eye contact in the correct places. Timing is slightly off and noticable.
(Sometimes if you repeat a few of their emphasised words back to them, they will continue to talk)
For example,
....blah, blah, blah then the cat threw up
"The cat threw up?"
Yeh, I was really worried, the cat's never sick...blah, blah, blah
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Blah blah blah.
' I KILLED YOUR CAT'
blah blah blah
'YOUR MOTHER TOO'
Blahblahblah
BANANAS
blah? What? Sometimes I dont think you listen to me at all. No wonder you've got no friends... NT walks off.

Your post is a classic and is linked into one of our main systems or 'tick boxes'..

Cue trumpets :

'Taking things literally'

Mistake no 1. Using language to communicate. Assuming that the words people use are a method to convey meaning.
They are not. It is normally 'grooming' ie picking nits off of each others backs translated to modern times.... listen to my nonsense, i listen to yours, we both lie (sympathise) = friends.

I'm finding the 'symptom' of taking things literally to be massive.

I didn't understand that i didnt understand it!
Still working towards it and gaining new examples everyday.
Even the symptom on their tick box sheet 'takes things literally' has an NT hidden message in it.
'Takes things literally' ?how else would you take things? But the assumption in three words on their sheet is a whole world!
 
My need for things to run smoothly, predictably and/or on time tends to annoy or puzzle people. The sense that I never really grew up and my childish temper can be a problem with others as well.
 
You're so quiet? Why are you so quiet? Can't you make even the slightest amount of noise?
 
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