1. Shyness and anxiety
I am naturally shy and anxious. I can talk to women in general social situations but when it comes to approaching them for dates, the shyness magnifies exponentially and I become anxious about getting rejected and facing another failure in life. Whenever I go out, I feel awkward and uncertain of what to do socially.
2. Non-religious
I live in a area where people are generally Christian even if they don’t take the tenants of Christianity very seriously. I grew up as a Christian but de-converted when I became clinically depressed. Why don’t I go back to Christianity? Even when I was a Christian, that didn’t necessarily translate to positive social interaction.
3. Bad body shape
I am overweight to the point I am borderline obese. I have fat hanging off my chin, my chest, my stomach, my sides, and my butt. Oddly, my forearms are thin and my hands are very weak. I have exercised to try to trim off the fat but I apparently do everything wrong and I get frustrated with how repetitive exercise feels.
4. My general mood and attitude
This is a hard pill for me to swallow but I am generally negative in my outlook on life. Granted, I have clinical depression, a lot of failures in my past, and I get treated badly by others who don’t understand me but apparently having a negative outlook isn’t going to help me.
5. My living situation
I still live with my mother at age 31 and I work only part time. Anxiety interferes with my ability to move out as well as seek different employment.
6. My interests and hobbies
I really shouldn’t care what others think about what I enjoy but women where I live tend to avoid “geeky/nerdy” men as well as men who aren’t crazy about football, country music, and going to church.
I am naturally shy and anxious. I can talk to women in general social situations but when it comes to approaching them for dates, the shyness magnifies exponentially and I become anxious about getting rejected and facing another failure in life. Whenever I go out, I feel awkward and uncertain of what to do socially.
2. Non-religious
I live in a area where people are generally Christian even if they don’t take the tenants of Christianity very seriously. I grew up as a Christian but de-converted when I became clinically depressed. Why don’t I go back to Christianity? Even when I was a Christian, that didn’t necessarily translate to positive social interaction.
3. Bad body shape
I am overweight to the point I am borderline obese. I have fat hanging off my chin, my chest, my stomach, my sides, and my butt. Oddly, my forearms are thin and my hands are very weak. I have exercised to try to trim off the fat but I apparently do everything wrong and I get frustrated with how repetitive exercise feels.
4. My general mood and attitude
This is a hard pill for me to swallow but I am generally negative in my outlook on life. Granted, I have clinical depression, a lot of failures in my past, and I get treated badly by others who don’t understand me but apparently having a negative outlook isn’t going to help me.
5. My living situation
I still live with my mother at age 31 and I work only part time. Anxiety interferes with my ability to move out as well as seek different employment.
6. My interests and hobbies
I really shouldn’t care what others think about what I enjoy but women where I live tend to avoid “geeky/nerdy” men as well as men who aren’t crazy about football, country music, and going to church.
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