princeapalia
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Firstly, a bit of background. I'm 19 and my parents told me a few years ago that I'd been diagnosed with AS when I was younger. I was pretty damn annoyed that they'd kept it from my, but it was probably for the best. I had few problems socially in primary school (up to about age 11) but had few friends and no relationship experiences at all in my teen years.
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So, I'm now at Uni and there's this girl who's a flatmate of one of my friends. I find her really attractive and when I first met her at the bar, she kept telling my how much she loved my accent (I've got quite a well-spoken English accent). Multiple people have told me that this girl likes me, but I'm not 100% sure.
I met again at a party a week later and she kept trying to talk to me, but I ended up getting a bit too drunk to have a decent conversation which p*ssed me off no end afterwards.
I took the initiative and started to chat to her on facebook after the party, but I got no indication that she was being flirty, and after about a week, the small talk kinda just died out.
I met her again by accident at the bar again with some of my mates and chatted for a bit- just about general stuff, like how bad the karaoke was! She didn't give much indication of being flirty again either, which I can't work out if it's because she's shy, or whether it was because we were sitting with other people.
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My main issue now is what next? It doesn't seem right to start up another random facebook conversation after not messaging her for about a week- especially as I barely know her, and I don't get to see her in person that much either.
I don't know if it's because I've got AS, or that I've been a bit down at Uni before I met her, but I'm really feeling depressed about the whole situation now.
Because I've had no experience with flirting with girls prior to this, it feels like I have no idea what to say, and it seems like every waking moment I'm preoccupied thinking about different things to say to her, or different situations and it's adversely affecting my studies as well.
In short, it's driving me crazy that I have pointless knowledge of things that I don't really want to know about (like naming every countries' flag and still being able to almost completely remember the entire content of this dinosaur book I had as a kid), but be completely useless when it comes to noticing relationship cues and being able to know what to say to a girl.
Any help would be much appreciated, thanks
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So, I'm now at Uni and there's this girl who's a flatmate of one of my friends. I find her really attractive and when I first met her at the bar, she kept telling my how much she loved my accent (I've got quite a well-spoken English accent). Multiple people have told me that this girl likes me, but I'm not 100% sure.
I met again at a party a week later and she kept trying to talk to me, but I ended up getting a bit too drunk to have a decent conversation which p*ssed me off no end afterwards.
I took the initiative and started to chat to her on facebook after the party, but I got no indication that she was being flirty, and after about a week, the small talk kinda just died out.
I met her again by accident at the bar again with some of my mates and chatted for a bit- just about general stuff, like how bad the karaoke was! She didn't give much indication of being flirty again either, which I can't work out if it's because she's shy, or whether it was because we were sitting with other people.
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My main issue now is what next? It doesn't seem right to start up another random facebook conversation after not messaging her for about a week- especially as I barely know her, and I don't get to see her in person that much either.
I don't know if it's because I've got AS, or that I've been a bit down at Uni before I met her, but I'm really feeling depressed about the whole situation now.
Because I've had no experience with flirting with girls prior to this, it feels like I have no idea what to say, and it seems like every waking moment I'm preoccupied thinking about different things to say to her, or different situations and it's adversely affecting my studies as well.
In short, it's driving me crazy that I have pointless knowledge of things that I don't really want to know about (like naming every countries' flag and still being able to almost completely remember the entire content of this dinosaur book I had as a kid), but be completely useless when it comes to noticing relationship cues and being able to know what to say to a girl.
Any help would be much appreciated, thanks
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