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That’s two degrees of assumption on your part.

Besides, no one has to like you. No one has to want you to have a girlfriend, either. And whether or not your assumptions are true does not affect your ability to get a girlfriend.

All the arguments you present are full of holes.
 
Markness said:
I can’t give names. I just know that there are some users here who dislike me so I am sure they don’t want me to have a girlfriend.
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This is just one of your deflection tactics. It's not real - it's a story you make up for your own purposes.

It also pushes people away. Telling people who are helping you that they are malicious enemies is a great way to get them to stop helping you.

This is why I occasionally tell you that you are where you've chosen to be in life.

I realized a year or so ago that anyone who actively works to help you (except tree perhaps) gets labelled as an enemy sooner or later. So I figured I either was one, or would be one soon enough, despite having good intentions.

So I sometimes push at the internal "defenses" that have you "locked in place". Of course it's uncomfortable - this kind of change is always uncomfortable. But regret when it really is too late is also uncomfortable, and it doesn't go away.
 
Hypnalis said:
It also pushes people away. Telling people who are helping you that they are malicious enemies is a great way to get them to stop helping you.
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I am so guilty of this. I even accused my close friends of this with my black and white thinking. Thank goodness I only shared it here and with my therapist, never with them. I did straightened it out with my female friend.
 
If I am not supposed to look for a relationship, how will one ever happen for me? I don’t understand why I was often told “Women will come to you when you stop looking for them.” or similar statements.
 
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Markness said:
If I am not supposed to look for a relationship, how will one ever happen for me? I don’t understand why I was often told “Women will come to you when you stop looking for them.” or similar statements.
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That's just a platitude
 
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Please don't believe that crap. It's all crap. I was not looking, or trying and it did not make a damn difference. It actually made things worse.
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In my experience, when I was good and content with my life and wasn’t looking, I got nothing.

Granted, I don’t get much when I do myself out there, but I get even less when I don’t.
 
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