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Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by Heyphelpsy, Apr 4, 2021.

  1. Heyphelpsy

    Heyphelpsy Active Member

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    I'm diagnosed with autism, but I dont have a special interest. I dont have any interests. I go to my job then I come home and sleep, I do nothing in between, as it gives me a great deal of anxiety. On weekends, I sit and look on my phone. I do nothing. It's a sad life, but I think it's my depression that keeps me from enjoying things. So I feel I don't have autism because I don't have a special interest, but the doctor says I do have autism. Hmm. This confuses me. Can you have autism and NOT have a special interest? I'm new to this, so I know very little. I'd like to be informed.
     
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    yes, There is someone on here that says, "you meet one person with Autism, you met one person with Autism"
    meaning people on the spectrum are very different individuals. Being diagnosed doesn't include hobbies or interests, it's more about behavior and how the brain works. although I have Aspie friends who have obsession's, It doesn't apply to everyone on the spectrum. You also might just not of found a thing that interests you. If you are feeling depressed an anxious I'd emphasize to your doctor, that that's what you want help with. And if you doubt your diagnosis, it doesn't hurt to get a second opinion, preferably someone who specializes with people on the spectrum.
     
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  3. Aspychata

    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    Special interest is something that you wish to do and look forward to doing. l just started up again with potted plants, listening to music. Have you tried to cultivate any outside interests outside of your job?
    What do you remember about your childhood? Did some type of attraction for something developed? Perhaps you were unable to proceed with this interest. Perhaps some help with depression is needed. Exercise has helped a lot of people, even if you only attempt it on the weekends. I choose not to do alot due to my income, but it keeps me grounded being at home.
     
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    Heyphelpsy Active Member

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    I am in love with my job and dont want another interest. That is why I think I am depressed when I get home and can't do anything. I stay at work the latest I can and get there as early as I can. I love it. Maybe thats my special interest? Can a job be a special interest?
     
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  5. Heyphelpsy

    Heyphelpsy Active Member

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    It seems I know very little about autism, other than what I experience. My doctor, I trust. But special interests are talked about a lot and I may not fit that category. I clearly fit other categories though. Maybe make an appointment with my doctor to discuss his findings further so I can understand? Thank you very much for your reply and thoughts, I value your insight.
     
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    Aspychata Serenity waves, beachy vibes

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    l once had a job like that. I stayed late too. It was legal and lots of details. I turned into a workaholic. Guess it could be your special interest. Maybe you are being too hard on yourself? You are employed and that's a big deal these days with so many people out of work.
     
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    Absolutely, and you love your work that's fantastic. What's your line of work?
     
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    I am a special education teacher. My work can be stressful at times, but I love it. I think about new lesson ideas as I fall asleep! But I have not successfully learned how to transition from the school setting to the home setting after work/during school breaks. I become extremely depressed and anxious to be away from the thing that brings me happiness. Thank you for your reply. I feel I may have a special interest, but also know now I dont have to fit into that specific category.
     
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    Absolutely one's job can be their special interest! For me, that's been the case for most my jobs. I know my job inside out, and know the corporate history well enough that a client can ask about something obscure and I can say "I know what you're asking about, but we haven't offered that product since 1989!"

    Spectrum shift

     
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    Having my job as a special interest was definitely how I got much enjoyment and fulfillment out of life. I loved most of the jobs I had. And I would usually spend evenings and weekends doing work related tasks.

    I also had some other interests, although work took priority. My other interests acted as ways to socialise, for example, I went to classes and groups relating to the other interests, mostly writing and also self development or psychology classes and groups. Maybe try something like that?

    Something work related maybe, I also did a number of trainings that were relevant to my work. It was interesting, and I met others with my interests.
     
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    @Heyphelpsy

    As for being diagnosed as Asperger's and/or Autism... Doctors will look at a number of things, it's a combination of everything that determines their conclusions

    Each person who is Asperger's or Autistic will show different mannerisms in various areas, so don't just jump to conclusions.

    I've had the opposite of you, for ten years I worked in a job I really didn't like, when I wasn't at work is when I could get fully involved in the hobbies and interests that are my special interests... Almost every weekend, when not at work, I was out taking photos for many hours, a dominant special interest... Still not sure if I would make it my job, even if I could...
     
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    Skittlebisquit Hope is faith rewarded in advance

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    You have a special interest! You love what you do, and do what you love.
     
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    Maybe you should make a thread about your depression and anxiety, and we can try to help. That seems to be the more important issue here.
     
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    Special interests can be anything. I have heard quite a few people on the spectrum say they don't have any, so it isn't universal. Hardly anything is.

    I do understand the desire to have a time at home seperate from work and more relaxation. Typically that makes sense. It's kind of a grey area with work you are very engrossed in. I guess it would depend on how you feel with and without it.

    You might try and experiment with different pastimes. Any sort of physical exercise (even just walking) can maybe help in two areas, making your body feel better and combatting depression.
     
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    Panic attacks or unipolar depression what do you think about? not creativity ?but it's there! at the moment locked away!
     
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    If you decide to talk about what stresses you do it in the private discussion area(members only) so not every tom,Dick or Harry can read it
     
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    Dont have special interest too... My doctor said its normal to autistic girls. Mostly boys have special interests. But when you are concentrated on something you love to do (for me its routine things or writing) you are forget about everything and its like meditate and similar to having special interest. condition when you cant hear anything when you are working with it. (like in movie soul when main character played on sax)
     
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    Yes, I think a job can be a special interest. I now am a food delivery driver and I love the job. Sometimes you have to cultivate new interests. So effort has to be made. Since it is good to get outside, may I suggest EBird?
    It is an app that you download and you walk around and you mark down the types of birds that you see. You can get alerts for rare bird sightings with the location so you can go see it for yourself. The lists are compiled by Cornell school of ornithology.
    I was introduced to this by my daughter whose special interest is birds. I've come to enjoy doing this because it is a useful thing to do while on a walk.
     
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    My special interests are things that I get all bubbly and excited over when someone shows openness to listen to me. Not really obsessions but things that really crank the endorphins and dopamine when I do get the chance to engage. Kind of like a hobby that you super enjoy but you can also walk away from to do other things. For me that's science, hiking, and social nudity. At one time it included recreational shooting and off-road driving.

    The problem with a special interest is usually that it is narrow and only appeals to a very small niche of people. Not many people are super jazzed over the beauty quark. Not a lot of people really want to hear a dissertation about hiking a section of the Pacific Crest Trail. Nudists are literally one in a thousand here in the US.

    The way I talk about them can become so effusive, I overwhelm people. So I intentionally keep my mouth shut about them most of the time. If it weren't for the internet, I'd never get to talk to anyone about them.

    But not every autistic person has special interests of that sort. Everyone is unique. Repetitive behavior patterns are extremely common, however. Wanting to do the same thing the same way all the time. But not even that is "universal." The only universal trait seems to be social disability and that happens in widely varying degrees.
     
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    Depression can kill motivation. If you are not on medication I would get a good psychiatrist and have they figure out how to help you. My wife has to take anti-depressants otherwise she just wants to sit in a dark room with a book all day. The 1st drug might not work and you need to keep trying different ones. My son is incredibly irritable to the point my wife, who also is ASD, and myself can't stand it. If it wasn't for citilopram we literally could not live with him walking on eggshells all day and night. Without it he develops bad OCD and starts yelling.
     
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