What the title says. I was asked out by a straight woman who thinks I'm male/identify as male. Which I do, but not entirely. But I'm only attracted to men!
How do I tell her I don't want to date her?? I want to be honest above all else, so do I just say simply that I don't like girls? I know I'm overthinking this (a lot) and the answer is probably really simple, but I'm not good at relationship stuff. I also really want to be friends with her. Is there a way to tell her "no" that's honest, but tactful? I don't want to lead her on. I made a (legitimate) excuse as to why I couldn't go on a date at that point in time. But I want to tell her honestly that I'm not interested romantically. She doesn't seem like the type of person who would react weirdly at all to being under the impression that I'm a gay man, but I want to be more honest than that. So how do I explain that A.) I'm not attracted to women, and B.) that I'm not biologically male? I don't want a friendship with her under false pretenses either. I do believe that she would understand but I'm not sure how my other neighbors would feel if they found out. I never specified my gender identity to any of them, because it never came up. And I'm also not entirely sure about that myself. My neighbors are all pretty big fans of me so far but I'm worried about losing that if someone is like "Did you know that Luca is genderfluid/transgender?" I don't think most of them even know what that means. Some of them will probably think I'm confused.
I talked way too much and made a long-winded post again so I apologize!! I'm very scatterbrained.
What would be the best way to approach this without hurting her feelings, leading her on, being inadvertently dishonest, or sparking rumors from my nosy neighbors? There's probably no win-win here.
How do I tell her I don't want to date her?? I want to be honest above all else, so do I just say simply that I don't like girls? I know I'm overthinking this (a lot) and the answer is probably really simple, but I'm not good at relationship stuff. I also really want to be friends with her. Is there a way to tell her "no" that's honest, but tactful? I don't want to lead her on. I made a (legitimate) excuse as to why I couldn't go on a date at that point in time. But I want to tell her honestly that I'm not interested romantically. She doesn't seem like the type of person who would react weirdly at all to being under the impression that I'm a gay man, but I want to be more honest than that. So how do I explain that A.) I'm not attracted to women, and B.) that I'm not biologically male? I don't want a friendship with her under false pretenses either. I do believe that she would understand but I'm not sure how my other neighbors would feel if they found out. I never specified my gender identity to any of them, because it never came up. And I'm also not entirely sure about that myself. My neighbors are all pretty big fans of me so far but I'm worried about losing that if someone is like "Did you know that Luca is genderfluid/transgender?" I don't think most of them even know what that means. Some of them will probably think I'm confused.
I talked way too much and made a long-winded post again so I apologize!! I'm very scatterbrained.
What would be the best way to approach this without hurting her feelings, leading her on, being inadvertently dishonest, or sparking rumors from my nosy neighbors? There's probably no win-win here.