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Social Status in high school?

I was definitely the loner or “outcast” in high school I was badly bullied for how I behaved to what my interests were I don’t have fond memories of school and still get upset when I think about it.
 
I was left alone for the extremely long four years. I literally had no friends at all, and at that time, it never bothered me because I enjoyed being a loner. I wasn't involved in the groups that drank illegally or partied constantly. I was bullied for my loner mindset and lifestyle though, but I enjoyed the freedom of being able to do what I pleased and not constantly getting dragged into nonsense I didn't care for.
 
I was homeschooled. My mom did try a homeschool group for a while but I was the only girl and always feeling left out and it didn't last. I went to a program for adults who didn't get their diploma or GED everyone pretty much ignored each other.
 
The details are fuzzy. I have trouble remembering the suppressed memories. I was an outcast though. I convinced people that if they ever got into a fight with me someone is going to die. This led to people generally keeping their distance. I could blend in with the bad kids because I didn't seem to care about them or school. Maybe I got some parts wrong. That's the closest I can get to remembering it.
 
High School? Social Status? :eek:


I had to go to college before my peers began to treat me as a human being.
 
Switched schools and moved a lot, and I only got to ninth grade. I hung out with a couple of gothy/emo type kids during my short stay in high school and we literally ditched every day. After that I just quit. (I did end up in college at 16 though, just temper the idea of being a high school drop out.)
 
Kids in high school are just not mature. Look at Columbine H.S. in 1999 for example, these two kids Eric and Dylan got fed up with the bullying and they ended up shooting and killing several people. I mean bullying and isolation hurts.
 
The kid who ate his lunch under the basement stairs and sometimes in the bathroom stalls
I did that most days since the teacher locked the classrooms during breaks and all other social places like the cafeteria was always full of other people.I did actually sit on the same table as the "cool guys" for a while and it was pretty cool until I realized they weren't trying to be my friends but just wanted me to make a fool out of myself so they could laugh.
It's okay though, the basement had this bg cardboard box full of "lost and found" clothes and I used it as a lounge chair while I ate my lunch, it was pretty comfy
 
I was basically invisible back in high school. Never really dated anyone, had a few friends but they were mostly just "school friends," in the sense we never really talked outside of school. I ate lunch by myself most days, and usually worked on homework after I finished eating. I was bullied a little bit during my freshman year by two boys in particular, but after that pretty much everyone left me alone. So, not the worst experience I guess, but if I could go back I'd probably change some things.
 
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Hah, I just rediscovered some fond memories: realizing that not having any social status at all means you don't really have to worry about what people think of you, then proceeding to spend every break playing Magic: the Gathering in the cafeteria, or geeking out about your D&D campaign with your friends.
 
In high school people usually left me alone. I was a loner and people occasionally snickered at me but stayed away because they were scared I would go on a rampage because I was quiet.

In elementary school and middle school, I was bullied badly. People would beat on me, throw stuff at me and call me names. After the columbine incident made the news, it seemed people bullied less
 
I was everyone's favourite bullying target. I did have a few good friends though, the other three social rejects in my year, we stuck together in self defence and ended up being really close for years.
 
Hah, I just rediscovered some fond memories: realizing that not having any social status at all means you don't really have to worry about what people think of you, then proceeding to spend every break playing Magic: the Gathering in the cafeteria, or geeking out about your D&D campaign with your friends.

YES. Although Magic did not exist when I was in HS, I did have a small group of friends that would talk about gaming, new books, campaigns, or awesome character builds with. We were so nerdy!

To answer the question though, I was pretty much on the bottom of the social pile. I was very badly bullied, mistreated, ignored or marginalized by most of my peers. Things got slightly better in my senior year, when I started wearing all black & heavy metal t-shirts & grew my hair long. People thought I was either stoned or a Satanist, & I didn't disabuse them of this since it gave me some welcome lack of attention. Still, even then being threatened with physical violence or occasionally spat upon was not too unusual for me. I tended to hang out with the freaks, geeks, hippies and other social outcasts too, which didn't help. But at least they were more interesting people than the jocks or the preppies. I never got invited to school parties, went to dances, or my prom either...
 
I was bullied merceliously in elementary, When I was 12 I moved got hooked up with local kids (the burnouts ) I dropped out in 7th grade but got along with many other teens well at that point ( but still could talk to girls somehow) Things got a lot worse in my 20's when everyone started going to clubs and dating I no longer fit in I wasn't till my 30's that I started to have some direction
 
I was in the "Unit", so I was kind of an outcast anyway, except for a small group of friends including my ex and her friends.

@Adora, me too, I mean yeah it's about 26 years since I left, BUT THE PAIN REMAINS!
 
I bit and clawed my way to the 'accepted' tier just below the popular kids. :D
 
I tried to be as low key as possible in high school. While on the tennis team I was severely bullied by everyone even though I played tennis fine. Outside of the tennis team there were a few bullies who messed with me. I hated school. My grades were terrible. My Apple ][+ computer had 100% of my interest & time.
 
I was at the bottom of the social hierarchy, I do feel that I had friends the whole time in school. I never got to hang out with my friends on weekends to do stuff like go ride skateboards or chase girls around.

I didn't find my friends until end of high school. I was invited to my end if class pre-graduation party except I was stopped by my parents since my intentions were to get drunk with the friends that my parents didn't believe that I had. It made me angry and depressed that it had to happen since my parents only did that for my best interest to keep away from all that while my friends had all the fun.

Once I look back at school, I hated school due to academic pressures that I couldn't handle. I had been put in the position that my academic values were more important than my social values.

Years after high school, been in trouble by my Father for claiming school was a waste of time if I can't be with my friends when school was out. I just wanted to remember high school with the same social advantage that my Brother and my Sister had.

We had the Harry Potter style uniform back in high school. I had no choice but to wear all that stuff. I was told to wear what my friends had worn casually, except I never seen my friends outside of school hours. Got into trouble by my parents as a young adult after I finished high school for wearing nothing but Puma, Adidas and Nike tracksuits since it was the sports crazed Jocks back at school who did want to be my friend.

I preferred to been friends with people who were creative, being into music and art.
 
I have my High School reunion coming up in August this year. I had been thinking about coming to the reunion unannounced and preach Autism awareness acting like a 38 year old teenager to make some individuals feel guilty about making me an outcast and teasing me for my Autism.
 

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