Social media and working on myself

[Jenisautistic]

Hi everybody, I’ve been considering going on social media to share my story and help other people feel heard and also maybe even to heal myself

However, a lot of my let’s say extend extended family or out of range family has been trying to contact me and I’m not sure how I feel about that and my family doesn’t want me really to contact them and I don’t think I do either to be honest, but I still want to post on social media because I don’t wanna be in a cave as a hermit forever
Also, my family really doesn’t want me to post too much info, but I’m not sure where to draw the line when I do post


Do you have any thoughts or opinions on this?

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

Hi everybody, I’ve been considering going on social media to share my story and help other people feel heard and also maybe even to heal myself

However, a lot of my let’s say extend extended family or out of range family has been trying to contact me and I’m not sure how I feel about that and my family doesn’t want me really to contact them and I don’t think I do either to be honest, but I still want to post on social media because I don’t wanna be in a cave as a hermit forever
Also, my family really doesn’t want me to post too much info, but I’m not sure where to draw the line when I do post


Do you have any thoughts or opinions on this?

I am no expert in social media, but I am very careful not to let my personal information out into public. People can steal your bank accounts, IDs, etc.

I would also say it depends on what your goal is. Who do you want to reach and why?

Have you spent time on any of the social platforms to see what they are like? Are you looking to post on Facebook or Instagram, You Tube and I know there are a bunch of others? I would spend a lot of time “lurking” on a platform before I would venture to join or post.

A potential problem is opening yourself up to public criticism. Some platforms allow the public to give “thumbs down” and even say nasty things about you.

I agree with you that your generation really has a strong interest in social media. I hope you can work something out so you can stay safe and still participate.

 

[Matthias]

Can you use social media without using your real name or posting a picture of yourself so it can be somewhat anonymous?

 

[RemyZee]

I agree that it's a risk to put yourself out there on some of the major forums, and learned myself how complicated it can get to be on social media. Maybe a small online support group where you can express yourself and get to know people, something that has formal moderators. I think AANE is pretty safe and they have support groups about all kinds of things--where there is some consistency.
https://aane.org/
I had a good experience with them personally: We all have a need to share our stories and find healing and help others who are going through the same things--finding the right listeners is important.

 

[Jenisautistic]

I’m talking more about posting things on my Pages on Instagram, etc., to the people that I know who our friends on my page if that makes sense

I just don’t wanna live in a cave
When I post on YouTube, I usually don’t use my full name facebook a little different because I’m posting the people I know


If any of this makes sense

I want to share my life with the people online who Im friends with

But unable to bewhen it comes to being in person

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

I think you should be able to have and safely use social media. Of course you don’t want to live in a cave.

You can have Instagram postings show a name that is not your own. I know because that is the way my account is.

But I don’t think Instagram access can be limited. I think it’s open to anyone. You can block someone undesirable, but only after that person has seen your posting. I could be wrong about this.

Another thing to consider is that once your data is in the Instagram database your profile will be suggested to other people. I know this because Instagram keeps suggesting contacts for me and some of them are people I don’t want to have anything to do with.

On FB, you can have a private group. People must have your permission to view it. My cousins have this set up for their family reunions.

 

[Shamar]

Hi everybody, I’ve been considering going on social media to share my story and help other people feel heard and also maybe even to heal myself

However, a lot of my let’s say extend extended family or out of range family has been trying to contact me and I’m not sure how I feel about that and my family doesn’t want me really to contact them and I don’t think I do either to be honest, but I still want to post on social media because I don’t wanna be in a cave as a hermit forever
Also, my family really doesn’t want me to post too much info, but I’m not sure where to draw the line when I do post


Do you have any thoughts or opinions on this?

You are not in a cave as long as you keep posting here. Don't forget you also have a family RIGHT HERE. There are several of us who consider us more of a family than their blood relatives. Don't post enough information that you can be identified. The anonymity afforded by this forum allows me to say things I could not otherwise. Actually, it allows me to say things, since if anyone knew who I was, I would probably go mute.

I should have said this earlier, but I have noticed in the past year you have grown and matured a great deal. I think that is wonderful. I like your new avatar, it seems to suit the new you.

 

[Sarah S]

Me personally have learned the hard way to stay WAY clear from social media of this kind (ie reply and make my self seen ) and have a long time ago left FB. I am in Youtube but again i like, subscribe ,view (only that within all my interests though ) So i would say be very carefull with this and be prepared to get attacked (online not in reel life ) should you go this route (there are a lot of idiots , haters, trolls out there Jen.) All this said if you feel this is the way for you then go for it my friend but again be ready for possible bumps. And above all DONT let any haters etc... get to you and make you feel down etc... & if you feel it gets to much leave my friend.

 

[Dagan]

I use one of my pseudonyms for a name / posting here / doing the latest music project. I have 5 pen names that I use for screenwriting alone. I don't even use my real name for film work much anymore - audio, foley sound fx, practical special fx make up, etc. It's a quieter life, I assure you.

As well, there are filters using AI (the kind I actually think is okay to use) that can change your looks and voice entirely, and it's as simple as point and click using a mouse to do so - re-render the video / audio and done. You can make yourself a cartoon, even. You can probably find it on your own, but if you want help, message me. I will dig in again to what's available, pricing points (free is best, of course) and all that jazz. I relate to you on all of this because I have been contemplating and grinding my brain to do the same kind of thing - entertainment related, though, mostly.