I am terrible for this! I find it incredibly embarrassing to ask someone for help etc. I even feel it when others relate how they were stuck and phoned a friend to ask for help and I am thinking: but if they are a friend, surely they would know you need help?
I still cannot get my head around that even friends need to be asked. To me, a friend will know to ask. Isn't that what friendship is all about?
I am worse now then ever before, because it is only when I begin to appreciate the concept of what friendship means, I begin to think that when one knows you are unwell, they will ask if they can do something?
My husband tells me that people have their own lives and just not going to constantly think about what their friends need, and yes, we do have our own lives and yes again, it is true that I have to make a concentrated effort to text a friend (heavens, I do have a few lol). But when it is rather obvious that the person needs help but no offer is given, does that not show a lack of friendship?
I had an emergency dentist appointment (hate them with a passion) and my husband could not help due to having had an operation and I had no choice but to ask if someone would take me and it was crushingly embarrassing and I felt I was such an inconvenience. When I did find someone, I read her emotions wrong and what I thought was an annoying look aimed at me, for being so inconvenient, she explained (voluntarily) that she was thinking that she was sure that day was free, but mentally checking, so there you go, I often misread facial expressions and more often or not, think they are aimed at me, but hey, lol never the positive ones!!!
I still cannot get my head around that even friends need to be asked. To me, a friend will know to ask. Isn't that what friendship is all about?
I am worse now then ever before, because it is only when I begin to appreciate the concept of what friendship means, I begin to think that when one knows you are unwell, they will ask if they can do something?
My husband tells me that people have their own lives and just not going to constantly think about what their friends need, and yes, we do have our own lives and yes again, it is true that I have to make a concentrated effort to text a friend (heavens, I do have a few lol). But when it is rather obvious that the person needs help but no offer is given, does that not show a lack of friendship?
I had an emergency dentist appointment (hate them with a passion) and my husband could not help due to having had an operation and I had no choice but to ask if someone would take me and it was crushingly embarrassing and I felt I was such an inconvenience. When I did find someone, I read her emotions wrong and what I thought was an annoying look aimed at me, for being so inconvenient, she explained (voluntarily) that she was thinking that she was sure that day was free, but mentally checking, so there you go, I often misread facial expressions and more often or not, think they are aimed at me, but hey, lol never the positive ones!!!