It kind of irks me when people have tried to explain my "nature" away as shyness. My wife always tells people that I am shy.
Even before I really knew what AS/HFA was and long before I suspected that I was affected by it, I used to say "I'm not shy, I'm just not very good with people". I'm happy to run a meeting with a bunch of high powered consultants and basically control the points of discussion and do most of the talking. I can stand up in front of a bunch of people I don't know and do a presentation or conduct a course. When I go bowling and score a strike I do a stupid dance, and I don't care what people think.
But in social situations I am completely out of my depth, can't really make small talk, never know where to look or what to say or what to talk about. At least now I know that it was never shyness to begin with.
Even before I really knew what AS/HFA was and long before I suspected that I was affected by it, I used to say "I'm not shy, I'm just not very good with people". I'm happy to run a meeting with a bunch of high powered consultants and basically control the points of discussion and do most of the talking. I can stand up in front of a bunch of people I don't know and do a presentation or conduct a course. When I go bowling and score a strike I do a stupid dance, and I don't care what people think.
But in social situations I am completely out of my depth, can't really make small talk, never know where to look or what to say or what to talk about. At least now I know that it was never shyness to begin with.