Sexual 'cravings'???

[Peeta]

So I've figured out a while ago that I'm on the asexual spectrum. Still not sure if it's demi or full on asexual with romantic tendencies. Now for as long as I can remember I've seen and heard jokes about people not having sex for x amount of time. It always drives them crazy, other people sympathize, they can't function etc. I also had a conversation earlier this year where my fiancee commented how his body was completely screwed cause he was craving sex, to the point of not being able to sleep (we're LDR).

I can 100% honestly say I have no clue how this feels. I don't desire sex when on my own and even with the fiancee around I'm not sure if it's 'sex' I want or just being that close. On my own I might masturbate once every few months to relax, cause hey the feeling is kind of nice, but my body is not screaming for it. When I see a person that is physically attractive/handsome, my body has no response. Maybe I'll think 'that person is aesthetically pleasing to the eye'. It's harsh to admit it, but I'm not physically attracted to my fiancee, I think he looks handsome and cute, but no 'motor' is running when I see him.

Can anybody explain to me what this feeling feels like? Especially when 'it's been MONTHS/YEARS'? And what happens when the craving doesn't go away? (Do humans explode? Is that where spontaneous combustion comes from? )

 

[Ste11aeres]

It's harsh to admit it, but I'm not physically attracted to my fiancee, I think he looks handsome and cute, but no 'motor' is running when I see him.

I think that while this would indicate something on the asexuality spectrum, it would indicate against it being demi.
If you are demi, you might be physically attracted to him, and perhaps strongly so, (but not to other men).

Sorry, it's not the kind of answer you're looking for. but I'll edit this response as soon as I pull something off the stove, so re-read it in a few minutes.

 

[Peeta]

I think that while this would indicate something on the asexuality spectrum, it would indicate against it being demi.
If you are demi, you might be physically attracted to him, and perhaps strongly so, (but not to other men).

Hmmm actually, this will get me to add a question: what do you feel when you're physically attracted to someone? This might help me sort some stuff out.

 

[Ste11aeres]

Hmmm actually, this will get me to add a question: what do you feel when you're physically attracted to someone? This might help me sort some stuff out.

Okay. I am undeniably demi.
There is one person whom I have sexual desire for. Due to my system of moral principles, I wouldn't have sex with him (as things are) even if I could, and on top of that, we are currently separated geographically.
So I feel a longing. There is a (sexual) longing. But it's an interior mental thing-the thoughts come into my head of how nice it could be to have sex with him.
It's similar to an emotional longing for someone for whom you have a deep emotional attachment, but with thoughts of one's body and his body intermingled with it. (I mean the thoughts are intermingled. Not the bodies. Though I guess it could be read both ways )
But one can live with this, it's not gonna kill you.
I don't know what kind of answer a fully sexual person would give.

Very very rarely, I can feel some sort of barely perceptible sensation in my internal organs, but I'm not sure which ones. Kind of feels like intestines. (Yes, I recognise how weird that sounds).

 

[Larisa]

When I see a person that is physically attractive/handsome, my body has no response. Maybe I'll think 'that person is aesthetically pleasing to the eye'. It's harsh to admit it, but I'm not physically attracted to my fiancee, I think he looks handsome and cute, but no 'motor' is running when I see him.

I don't see living people to be aesthetically pleasing - only statues and pictures. Every human being in some moments can look aesthetically beautiful to me but in others - highly repulsive or neutral.
That's one of my reasons to avoid close interaction with the most of people but those who shown themselves being friendly to me and innerly stable and balanced (it shocks me when a person emotionally rocks from calmness to burning anger and back).

I don't feel physical attraction to people but I masturbate more often (than you wrote) and sometimes I feel my body needs this, I feel like glowing and melting from inside - but I don't want any other human to touch me at all.
I do not totally deny I might one day meet someone who I might like and trust to have sex but I doubt it: I figured out that all people only want to fulfill their own desires and it's close to imposible for them to think of another human as being equal to them in everything.
To feel safe I have to be addressed as equal: not oppressed, not adored, not hunted, not chasing, not needed, not pushed. And I should feel cared like it's comfortable to me or I have no reason to stay close to that person.
That's freedom of being myself even with someone else around - but all the relationship I have witnessed seemed strange and oppressive to me.
I rather prefer to be alone than in that sort of relationship.
It's strange to me that many people describe their sexual drive as need but at the same time they do not care emotionally for people they want to have sex with - like these people are gods (who are perfectly able to care for themselves and for their lovers) or just objects (which do not require any caring at all).
That's why I think that strong one-sided sexual desire masks other urges than intimacy and mutual caring.

 

[ancusmitis]

It's not usually a sensation, just a wanting. I want to feel this touch, so I imagine it.

Sometimes I get jolts and tingles all through my body, but rarely. Mostly I just really enjoy looking. If I feel anything it's a sort of pleasant tightness in my chest and... other things which might be TMI.

 

[aspieoutlaw89]

i have a sexual craving...for giant teddy bears & planning to sleep with them in my underwear,i revealed it to my mother .

 

[Shiznown]

Maybe you should tell your fiancée. Seems odd if he isn't asexual too. In terms of cravings, I am the complete opposite, I am hyper sexual. I think about sex every minute of everyday and if urges don't get taken care of, I get really irritable. It's always a hit or miss when talking to a woman who is on the nerdy side, because they are usually like me, or asexual.

 

[paloftoon]

Maybe you should tell your fiancée. Seems odd if he isn't asexual too. In terms of cravings, I am the complete opposite, I am hyper sexual. I think about sex every minute of everyday and if urges don't get taken care of, I get really irritable. It's always a hit or miss when talking to a woman who is on the nerdy side, because they are usually like me, or asexual.

If you go gay, this "problem" will be much easier to take care of

 

[Shiznown]

If you go gay, this "problem" will be much easier to take care of

Never thought of that before! If I could take a pill to make me gay, I would. It's never going to happen though.