I've had some 50+ years to deal with this in my life. I believe a lot of the difficulties with this, especially within the context of an autistic with above average intelligence, is the combination of a "quick wit" and a tendency to fire off a quick response, with the autistic deficits of not picking up on all the non-verbal language and understanding another's perspective and context. The social world becomes a field of landmines just waiting for something to blow up in your face, and then putting you on your heals trying to defend or apologize after the damage was done.
1. Force yourself to take a pause before opening up your mouth.
2. Force yourself to understand perspective and context by asking clarifying questions.
Most people are not accurate in their language. This leads to rather broad, nebulous, inappropriate, and inaccurate statements in response. Take the time to narrow down the context and perspective. Gather your information. Then respond. This is a skill. It does not occur naturally.
The byproduct of this is improved social and communication skills. People are more willing to engage with you if you are perceived as "thoughtful".
1. Force yourself to take a pause before opening up your mouth.
2. Force yourself to understand perspective and context by asking clarifying questions.
Most people are not accurate in their language. This leads to rather broad, nebulous, inappropriate, and inaccurate statements in response. Take the time to narrow down the context and perspective. Gather your information. Then respond. This is a skill. It does not occur naturally.
The byproduct of this is improved social and communication skills. People are more willing to engage with you if you are perceived as "thoughtful".