Hello loves
I have seen several posts about difficulties with chit chatting so I know this has been a hot topic of discussion around here many times over. I only have difficulties when I am around people who are destitute financially or, in other words, regular joes, people you would expect to be catching the bus downtown.
Like when I have to wait for the bus downtown or I'm talking to someone at a job like a coworker. They say something glib and expect me to have a certain, predetermined reaction to their plebeian utterance. Of course I give them a scientific synopsis of the subject they are talking about, usually not even aware until later that they were simply riffing, not actually asking me something to get an actual response.
It bothers me to say this but I think they think I am being too nice to them! That's why they single me out. I try to avoid street people like the plague and I think many people would agree with my decision to do so. No one person in my family is glib like that. We are all well educated, well spoken people.
My other Issue is I tend to over think how other people see me. Especially therapists and doctors. I know I have no reason at all to second guess myself but I always leave appointments feeling like a jackass. I said umm on that question, stuff like that! Usually it turns out fine and nothing of the sort was happening, I realize that.
When people do misunderstand me or misinterpret me as a pleb It makes me not want to go back to that place. I have tried reasoning with people who think I'm stupid but no matter how long you try to reason with someone, nothing at all will change their mind about anything. I gave up years ago.
More educated people are much more understanding and malleable in their thinking, I know that. I just need to figure out ways to get around the drudgery of doing common errands in public without being so hyper sensitive. @Judge, someone tell me what I can do to put my mind at ease.
I have seen several posts about difficulties with chit chatting so I know this has been a hot topic of discussion around here many times over. I only have difficulties when I am around people who are destitute financially or, in other words, regular joes, people you would expect to be catching the bus downtown.
Like when I have to wait for the bus downtown or I'm talking to someone at a job like a coworker. They say something glib and expect me to have a certain, predetermined reaction to their plebeian utterance. Of course I give them a scientific synopsis of the subject they are talking about, usually not even aware until later that they were simply riffing, not actually asking me something to get an actual response.
It bothers me to say this but I think they think I am being too nice to them! That's why they single me out. I try to avoid street people like the plague and I think many people would agree with my decision to do so. No one person in my family is glib like that. We are all well educated, well spoken people.
My other Issue is I tend to over think how other people see me. Especially therapists and doctors. I know I have no reason at all to second guess myself but I always leave appointments feeling like a jackass. I said umm on that question, stuff like that! Usually it turns out fine and nothing of the sort was happening, I realize that.
When people do misunderstand me or misinterpret me as a pleb It makes me not want to go back to that place. I have tried reasoning with people who think I'm stupid but no matter how long you try to reason with someone, nothing at all will change their mind about anything. I gave up years ago.
More educated people are much more understanding and malleable in their thinking, I know that. I just need to figure out ways to get around the drudgery of doing common errands in public without being so hyper sensitive. @Judge, someone tell me what I can do to put my mind at ease.